How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

I was born to be useful, and I will come back when my daughter is gone.

I still remember how I felt when I took the bus for the first time many years ago.

After I got into the car with anxiety, I quickly found a seat and sat down. I was very nervous, and I didn’t even know where to put my eyes.

Due to the noise in the bus, I couldn't hear the station announcement at all. I was worried that I would miss the stop where I would get off the bus, so I kept swiping at the sign posted by the window, which had the complete driving directions and stops.

Unfortunately, there was a person sitting next to the sign, and seeing my eyes often swept over, that person stared at me with doubts, which made my already nervous heart even more nervous. At the last stop, I rushed out of the car, as if running for my life. After getting out of the car, my clothes were soaked through.

This is how I felt when I was born in the countryside when I took the bus for the first time. At that time, I was a humble person.

I often feel that doing the same thing, others can do it well, but I can't do it well. Others know a lot, but I don't know anything. When facing the unknown, my heart is always nervous and anxious, afraid that I can't do well, and that others will laugh at me.

Later, I realized that I didn't need to be so nervous. Other people's opinions don't really matter at all.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

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Why don't you need to be ashamed?

Everyone is an independent individual, what others think is the right of others.

If someone looks down on you and laughs at you, you can discover his character. In the eyes of such people, people are divided into high and low. He can laugh at people who are inferior to him, and of course people who are more noble than him can laugh at him. Therefore, you don't have to take his ridicule to heart, he is just a poor man with a heart full of comparisons.

There are some kind people in the society who will not laugh at you when you are in trouble, but help you. If you have never used an automatic sensor faucet, they will teach you kindly and will not look down on you just because you don't understand. These are the people who deserve respect. It is with their kindness that the society has a moving side.

Whether other people think you are smart or stupid, it is someone else's business and has nothing to do with you. They live their lives with their troubles. You take your own mind and go your own way.

Essentially, the opinions of others cannot do you any real harm. The reason why you feel hurt is because you can't look down on yourself and care too much about other people's opinions.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

Society is like this, there are good people and bad people, cruelty and warmth. And we can't delusionally think that all people are good people, and all people have good intentions. Therefore, it is not that society has failed you, but that you have failed to see the real society.

If you understand and accept this imperfect society, you will not care so much about what other people think.

If you encounter a problem that you don't understand, admit it freely, I just don't understand it. If someone laughs at you, it doesn't matter, just don't associate with him. You will naturally meet people who are willing to help you, and these people are worthy friends.

If you see other people live better than you, know more than you, and have more ability than you, that's normal. There are so many people in society, naturally some people are worse than you, and of course some people are not as good as you. This is a very normal social reality, and there is really nothing to be ashamed of.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

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How to be confident?

The following three things can help you build your confidence.

(1) Bravely face difficulties.

When people with low self-esteem encounter problems, it is easy to choose to escape. They like to wander in their own familiar territory and are afraid to be exposed to the unknown.

However, some problems can be avoided for a while, but not forever.

Some people are not good at dealing with others and are afraid to communicate with others. This problem is inescapable. In order to survive, you always have to deal with others.

Problems like this are unavoidable and inescapable, and you should learn to face them bravely.

Difficulty is a paper tiger. You look at it and feel scary, but if you face it bravely, you will find that it is not as scary as you think.

If you feel inferior in some way, don't run away, but turn your inferiority into strength and make up your mind to solve it. Face the difficulty, and overcome the difficulty, you can get a successful experience. The more successful experiences you have and the more difficulties you overcome, the more confident you will become.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

(2) Focus on the method, not the feeling.

Self-confidence comes from strength. If there is no strength, how can there be self-confidence?

If you ask a chef if he has the confidence to prepare a sumptuous New Year's Eve dinner, he must be full of confidence. If you ask someone who has never been in the kitchen, he must not have the slightest confidence.

In the same way, if you want to have confidence in a certain aspect, you must learn relevant techniques and methods. When you master the tricks, you will naturally have the confidence to do this well.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

(3) Learn to compare yourself with yourself.

Some people see that others are better than themselves, and feel that they are inferior to others, so they will feel inferior. This idea is terribly wrong.

Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses.

If you see someone playing basketball better than you, chances are they've been practicing hard for years. And you, who have only just started contact, are not comparable at all.

Comparing what you are not good at with what others are proud of is not asking for hardships? You have to learn to compare yourself with yourself. As long as you are sure that you are constantly improving, then you are on the road to success. One day, sooner or later, you too can become better.

How can I be confident? If you understand this truth, you can also become stronger

In short, if you want to become a confident and strong person, you must first understand that others are others, and you are yourself. Secondly, strength is the foundation of a person's self-confidence. As long as you face problems bravely, make progress step by step, and constantly absorb successful experience, you will become a confident person.