Have you learned the life-saving skill of 'rejecting others' in the workplace?
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In last year's year-end summary, the leader set a goal for me: learn to say no in 2016 and learn to reject others.
Maybe some friends want to ask, is it difficult to reject others, and does this also need to be learned?
Yes, every day we have various opportunities to reject others. Go to the store to buy clothes, the style recommended by the salesperson does not like, we refuse the salesperson. When we went to a restaurant for dinner, the dishes recommended by the waiter were not to our taste, so we refused the waiter.
In life, we seem to be born with the ability to reject others. What about in the workplace? Is it as simple and easy to reject a colleague or leader as a salesperson and a waiter?
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Let me tell you my own example. In the first year of the new department, because the content of the work is completely different from the previous one, the degree of difficulty has also jumped several levels. In the first few months, the words "busy and chaotic" are the most appropriate words to describe.
Since my previous work was related to the Internet, my colleagues often came to ask me about this. When they arrived at the new department, they still came to ask for help as usual. Can you help me find out why this phone can't connect to the Internet? Why can't this website open all of a sudden? I'm about to send an email, but the computer freezes, and I haven't saved what I just wrote. Help me think of a way. .
Before I changed it, I would definitely help out without saying a word. But now, most of my work is related to computation and analysis. If the train of thought is interrupted, it is often not easy to pick it up again, and it is very error-prone.
So, I was in a rather embarrassing situation. It's hard to say no to a colleague! Everyone looks up and sees each other. If you don't help her this time, she won't necessarily help you in the future.
Don't reject her! Also difficult! The work at hand cannot be completed on time, and it is repeatedly interrupted, the quality of the work cannot be guaranteed, and the leadership cannot be communicated.
In the end, in order not to offend both parties, I had to work overtime desperately. Make yourself very tired and overworked for a long time. Finally, the mental state is getting worse and worse.
Finally, one day, I felt that I could no longer resist, and decided to ask the leaders for help. After the leader finished speaking to me, he left a sentence: You should learn to refuse, go back and think about it.
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At work, we are sometimes embarrassed to reject others. On the one hand, it is unwilling to offend people; on the other hand, it is also a virtue to think about helping others, so if you can help, you can help.
But the problem is that if you don't know how to refuse, and finally disrupt and affect your normal work and life, it will be a bit of a loss.
When should you consider rejecting someone?
1. Something beyond the ability
There are some issues that we don't even know ourselves. But in order not to disappoint my colleagues, I agreed with a slap on the chest.
After the fact, we spend a lot of time looking for answers. Even after a lot of hard work, I still can't find a solution.
It took time and energy, but in the end I couldn't help the other party, and I was embarrassed myself.
2. There are other more important tasks at hand
In the workplace, everyone has work to do. Some jobs are neither difficult nor urgent, while others are important and urgent.
Especially in the latter case, we must clarify the priorities of the work, which is usually called the priority. The important things are done first, and the unimportant things are put aside to make way.
Because if you want to do two things with one mind, doing important and urgent things while helping your colleagues with unimportant things, the final result is very likely that you will not be able to do anything well.
3. The other party does not know how to be grateful
There is a saying, "Give a person a rose, and the hand has a lingering fragrance". Yes, everyone needs someone's help sometimes.
However, there are such a group of people who only want to ask for something and are unwilling to give anything.
These people you helped him, not only did he not appreciate it, but he also felt that he deserved it. From then on, whenever he encounters a problem, he will come to you for help. If one day you reject him for some reason, he will blame you in turn.
For those who don't know how to be grateful, you are just punishing yourself by treating them kindly!
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Mencius said that poor people can only be good at themselves, but they can help the whole world if they are rich. Help others if you have the ability, and be yourself if you don't have the ability.
The same is true in the workplace. Don't do things beyond your ability just to please others or to show off your power. If you delay your own work for this, you will really put the cart before the horse.
Learning to reject others appropriately can help us manage our time well and easily control the rhythm of work and life. Share this experience here, to the same troubled friends. May you also acquire skills as soon as possible and get out of the mystery.