Advice from people who have come here: When you are short of money, you should stay away from these 4 things. Many tragedies in life come from this
In Han Han's film "Flying Life", there is such a sentence: "The collapse of adults starts with borrowing money."
And I think that the pressure of adults starts from lack of money.
Those rich people always say that anything that can be solved with money is not a problem. However, when there is no money, all things are things. So, some people will say, if you don't know how important money is, you will know when you are poor.
If you haven't found your own way to own wealth, at least stay away from the following 4 things when you are short of money, otherwise, you may never be able to turn around.
- Don't always talk about "lack of money" ==========================================
Some people are not financially wealthy, very short of money, and like to talk about such things as "I am poor", "I have no money" and so on.
Many behaviors of people will have some kind of psychological hint to yourself. If you are relatively short of money, you keep telling yourself that, over time, you will be paralyzed by yourself, thinking that you are always trapped in a vicious circle of lack of money. It means that you have no money, and you don’t take actions to make yourself rich, and you will only end up with more and more money.
Moreover, if you always talk about "lack of money", the people around you will not sympathize with you, but will only look down on you. Occasionally say it once or twice, it is possible that others will enlighten you and say: "It doesn't matter, no money is always temporary, it will pass." However, over time, it will cause others to resent you and smile at you. And passed.
- Give up unnecessary consumption and learn to delay gratification ===================================================================
There is a term in psychology called "delayed gratification" , I don't know if you have heard of it.
The opposite of delayed gratification is called immediate gratification.
What is instant gratification?
Like something and you want it right away; send a message and you want a response right away...
So what is delayed gratification?
Delayed gratification is also known as patience. For more valuable results, the goal is long-term, and the immediate gratification is abandoned, and the self-control ability displayed in waiting.
Many times, the pain may come from instant gratification. If you give a little bit, you want to get the reward immediately. If you don't get the reward, you will be miserable.
Campus loans and online loan incidents are emerging one after another. Many people take risks for their own desires, and finally fall into the abyss of eternal redemption. These are all manifestations of delayed gratification. Only understand the immediate comfort, while ignoring the long-term interests.
When you like something, you don't have to rush to get it. After a period of time, if you still need or like it, it's not too late to have it, because you can also set up a reward mechanism for yourself to complete a certain task. Afterwards, give yourself something you like as a reward, which is also a way to delay gratification.
- Stay away from negative energy =================================
In life, there are always some people who are full of negative energy and think that everything is unsatisfactory. No matter how you comfort him or encourage him, he is still immersed in his own sad world.
And some positive energy things will also be called negative energy by him. For example, if you succeed in something, he will say that you are lucky. If you fail, he will say that the reality is like this, You have to accept your fate.
People with such negative energy are not worthy of deep friendship. They will often drag you into a vicious circle. If you spend a long time with such people, it will also drag down your attention and make you depressed and become a a negative person.
Life needs a kind of positive energy, so people with negative energy have to learn to stay away. At the same time, don't bring negative energy to the people around you.
- Stay away from ineffective social interaction ================================================
As the saying goes: "Rely on parents at home, rely on friends when going out." Therefore, many people try to socialize in order to gain certain contacts.
However, if you make friends with friends, it is better to have high-quality solitude, and strive to improve yourself and enhance your abilities.
You must know that everyone's time and energy are limited. "An inch of time is worth an inch of gold, and an inch of money can't buy an inch of time." What we need is sincere and efficient communication, not those that are ineffective.
Therefore, in the social process, only with excellent people can it be called useful social interaction. If you are not good enough, then most of the time, your network will not be very valuable, because good people are attracted to each other.