A person with a strong heart conquers himself first, and then conquers life
His reason is, my reason is not, I let it; his reason is not, my reason is, I allow it.
The state is born from the heart. A person's happiness is not brought by others, but depends on oneself.
A glass of water was placed on the table, but half a glass of water was accidentally spilled. Optimistic people consider themselves lucky because the water is not all over, and there is half a glass left. Pessimistic people feel unlucky because there is only half a glass of water left.
The same thing happened, some people were happy for what they still had, and some people were miserable for what they had lost.
In fact, happiness and pain are only a matter of one thought. We can't change what happens objectively, but we can change the way we think about things in our hearts.
Looking at the world from the light, you will reap happiness, and looking at the world from the dark, you will bear suffering.
A person with a strong heart conquers himself first, and then conquers life
01 See your own strengths and weaknesses, don't make things difficult for yourself
Everyone has his strong and weak points. Everyone has their own areas of expertise, and naturally there are also areas they are not good at.
For example, a person who is good at drawing can easily make amazing portraits. However, he is not good at speaking in crowded places.
Faced with such a situation, a naturally optimistic person and a pessimistic person will draw very different conclusions.
Optimistic people can give themselves an accurate position and think that they are good at drawing, but they need to improve their speaking skills. But for the pessimist, he can only see his own shortcomings, thinking that he is weak and timid, and dare not speak in public.
Pessimists ignore their strengths and magnify their weaknesses. I always like to compare the areas that I am not good at with the areas that others are good at. The consequence of doing this is to find that you are far inferior to the other party, not only to suffer a strong blow in your heart, but also to lose the motivation and hope of progress.
A person with a strong heart conquers himself first, and then conquers life
We all hope that we can be very good in many fields, but there is no need to embarrass ourselves. First of all, you must give yourself an accurate position and understand your strengths. If you find your shortcomings, don't blindly compare them, but make up for them slowly.
"Mei Xuxun's snow is three-point white, but snow loses plum's fragrance." Everyone has their own advantages.
02 Don't be jealous of other people's success, but send blessings
Some people see that their friends have a successful career, or have a beautiful and perfect lover, and then look at their own life like boiled water, and their hearts may be a little sour.
As the living standards of his friends are getting higher and higher, he can no longer treat his friends with a peaceful mind because of jealousy.
Looking at his friend's beauty, he would even speak ill of his friend behind his back, publicizing his past scandals everywhere, thinking that his friend's worth was high, and he would forget about his old friend.
In fact, his friends did not despise him because of the doubled value, everything stemmed from his jealousy.
The development of friends was originally a very helpful thing for him, but just because of jealousy, the relationship between the two people gradually drifted away.
There are many such examples in life. Seeing other people's happy and beautiful lives, I am no longer happy.
A person with a strong heart conquers himself first, and then conquers life
In fact, others cannot deprive you of your happiness, as long as you send blessings, you can share happiness with others. Conversely, if jealousy arises in your heart, happiness will also leave you.
Whether you are happy or not is mainly up to you.
In the dark, you will be defeated by yourself first, and then by life. And in the light, you will conquer yourself first, and then conquer life!