2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
Optimists see hope in adversity, but pessimists can only see the shadows in the sun.
Xiaole and Xiaobei participate in a game at the same time.
Before the start of the game, Beckham thought, "What if I don't play well and lose? Will my teammates blame me and will the coach be disappointed?" He wiped his sweat while thinking.
Xiaole next to him took a sip of water and thought, "In this game, I will definitely let the opponent take a good look at my superb skills. If the game is won, I will invite the coach to treat me and have a feast!"
Which of these two modes of thinking are you more familiar with?
Beckham's thoughts are probably shared by most people, because people tend to prioritize the bad side. But the mindset of pessimists goes beyond that. They are used to "worrying ahead of time." And once they start to think about the bad side, the pessimist's brain will associate with many worrying and frightening images, and they begin to feel that the problem in front of them is like a towering mountain, which is very difficult to cross. I haven't started trying to solve the problem, but my heart is already timid.
Xiaole's idea is the thinking mode of an optimist, considering the good side first. Thinking on the bright side, the brain will also have associations. It's just that the associations at this time are all positive, so that the optimists have a stronger fighting spirit and inspire a better state.
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
In fact, whether optimistic or pessimistic, is just a thought in the brain and cannot affect objective facts.
However, optimistic and positive thoughts can inspire positive energy and push things forward. And pessimistic and negative thoughts are more likely to make things worse.
So what can you do to become an optimistic person?
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
- Wash the mind
Maybe you will often remind yourself to be an optimistic person, but when you encounter problems, you can’t help but think badly. If you want to be truly optimistic, you don’t just have to talk about it, you have to be at one with your body and mind, and change from the heart.
The cleansing of the mind can be divided into the following two steps.
(1) Sit quietly and calm your mind.
In a fast-paced life, there is an air of anxiety. People are busy and tired for life, and they dare not relax for a moment. Impetuousness and tension are the normal state of the heart.
After finally finishing the work, it will not let the brain rest, but wandering among the fragmented information. I just wanted to look at my phone for 20 minutes, but in a flash, an hour has passed. The time that could be used to relax has consumed more energy.
How long have you been in a state of relaxation?
Give yourself 20 minutes every day, in a quiet environment, without thinking about anything, and rest quietly for a while. Get rid of electronic products such as mobile phones, computers, TVs, etc., and relax your body and brain. Doing this can give yourself a moment of respite in the fast-paced life, so as to relieve anxiety and save energy for a positive face of life.
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
(2) Think and start an inner dialogue.
If you want to become optimistic, you need to wait for your inner peace to have a dialogue with your inner heart.
You can ask yourself the following three questions.
What are some things that I have worried about, but proved to be unfounded.
Why are these things not worth worrying about?
The next time I encounter a similar situation, how should I face it with optimism.
These three questions are a cycle. Help you turn pessimistic thinking into optimistic thinking.
Maybe at the beginning, you still can't be optimistic and face a new problem. That is because your accumulated experience is not enough. If you insist on analyzing your thoughts every day and turn pessimism into optimism, your way of thinking will gradually change.
Zhuge Liang once said, "Without indifference, there is no clear ambition, without tranquility, there is no far-reaching." Reflecting on oneself in tranquility can remove the dust from the soul and let the sun shine in.
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
- Use hobbies to wash away your unhappiness
Optimistic people encounter unpleasantness and have their own adjustment methods. Pessimistic people, on the other hand, immerse themselves in it, amplifying negative emotions.
People who are always smiling have something in common.
When they are in a bad mood, some people will get angry and yell. However, after venting, I put things aside in a blink of an eye, as if I forgot. There are also people who go to the park for a walk, feel down when they go, and smile when they come back. Others go for a good workout, sweat a lot, and then feel refreshed, as if there was no unpleasantness at all.
In short, they have their own way of doing something whenever they are in a bad mood. In the process of doing these things, let out the negative emotions, and when the things are done, all the unpleasant things will be forgotten. If you want to be an optimistic person, you also need to have your own set of adjustment methods.
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
If you don't know how to do it, the following two methods are recommended for you.
(1) WRITING.
Adults have a lot of things piled up in their hearts, which are inconvenient to tell others. If there are too many negative emotions accumulated and there is no way to vent, there is no way to be optimistic, but will be overwhelmed by it.
Write down the problems and ideas you encounter, not only to keep records, but also to vent your emotions well. Of course, if you don't want to keep these records, you can throw them down the drain and flush them away.
(2) RUNNING.
Exercise is the only way to get rid of negative emotions, and running is one of the easiest and most comprehensive forms of exercise.
Running can regulate your circulatory system and speed up your metabolism. Those emotions that make you unhappy are essentially certain substances in your body that make you feel unpleasant. Through exercise, these substances that produce negative emotions can be metabolized. Let the body become balanced and coordinated again, and the heart will also calm down.
Once you've established your way of venting, remember to say goodbye to unhappiness and let go of those negative emotions. Forgiving others is also letting go of yourself.
2 directions, 4 methods, help you bid farewell to pessimism and negativity and enrich your heart
In short, if you want to develop the habit of optimism, you must first cleanse your mind and think about the good side of things, which can give you more courage and hope. Second, you must also establish a set of your own methods to transform negative emotions. If negative emotions cannot be vented and kept in mind, no matter how optimistic people are, they will become pessimistic.
Gorky said, "If you talk about sad things with a happy mood, the sadness will disappear." Look at the world with an optimistic attitude and you will find that life becomes better.