When a newcomer in the workplace encounters an annoying leader, why must he resign decisively!
The first job I graduated from was a French company. As soon as I entered, I was a department manager. The platform and salary were good. But after working for half a month, I immediately resigned and joined the vast army of millions of job seekers.
As a department manager, I have to learn a lot and also manage the team. The pressure is very high. It doesn’t matter, I can learn. Our workload is heavy, it’s okay, I can overcome it.
However, the extreme work style and communication style of the leader is too difficult to accept.
My leader is a strong woman with strong work ability, but very low emotional intelligence and a bad relationship with employees. She seldom laughed, and occasionally laughed in a show-like manner, which everyone said was a "false smile". She treats her work purely as work and her colleagues as work partners, and she can be without any emotion, which is understandable and perhaps an advantage.
Just to name a few leadership styles that I find hard to accept:
Blame the beginning, not willing to listen. When encountering things, she always blames first, and then understands the situation; when you explain the facts, you make your own judgment in the middle, and do not want to listen and discuss.
Unwilling to teach people. As a newcomer, I often encounter places that I don't understand. When I encounter something I don’t understand, I usually think first, get a general answer, and then ask the boss for advice with questions and my own thinking, but the leader doesn’t focus on things.
> > Usually she would ask me: "Do you think so?", and if I'm right, she'll say: "You know what you're asking!". If I'm wrong, I say coldly, "You have to learn to think for yourself, you can't always expect others to teach you", and then say nothing. I'm going, I just thought about it and didn't want to understand it, so I came to you. You said it didn't matter to me, but after you said it, help me answer it. >
- Grumpy, the company atmosphere is very depressing. She doesn't actively communicate with employees, and no one speaks to her. In fact, the company's system is very good. There are heart-to-heart talks every week. Her heart-to-heart talk is like an interview; the company has activities such as birthdays for employees. In fact, the scene is super embarrassing, just a formality.
There is really no way to make it clear in words. I don't know if you have ever met such a boss, but you feel unable to communicate and speechless. You want to say that she is reasonable, but she is unreasonable; you want to say that she is unreasonable, but she is still reasonable.
All in all, every day is depressing. After a while of trying and trying, I'm sure: this bad situation won't get better. Since I can't change others, should I accept this "challenge" or find another way?
Many people will say that following such a leader, abusing oneself can make oneself grow faster. Such a harsh boss can handle it, and no one can handle it in the future.
Makes sense, I thought so too. I even told myself: I must take a lesson from what she did not do well, and I must sincerely encourage and help my team members to grow.
But until one day, when I hired a new employee, I suddenly found that the way I treated my subordinates had the shadow of the boss, although this was the thing I hated the most and tried to avoid.
I suddenly realized how much leadership can influence one's work style later on in the beginning stages of a career!
> > Do you want to be like the person you hate the most? If you don't want to, please don't worry about the small pros and cons here, go back to our original intention, although we often don't know if we can live the way we want; but, we can choose not to be the person we don't want to be? >
I know that it's not good to say that others are not good, but in fact I said the same when I talked to her face to face. I want to tell new people in the workplace, if you encounter a similar situation, don't be afraid, don't worry about encountering such leaders in the future, it is rare to encounter extreme personal situations, most of us are ordinary people, with normal joys and sorrows, normal emotional resonance, normal effort and inertia. If you have to force yourself to be with the extremes of the bad side, why bother?
If the workplace is a horizon, we hope from the ground to take advantage of the spring breeze, flap our wings and focus on taking off, but why do you have to tie a weight to make yourself so heavy?
Some things in life are a matter of persistence and challenge, and some things are a matter of choice. We encounter ordinary people in more situations. Among ordinary people and things, we work hard in the right direction and constantly open up space for ourselves to rise.
New people in the workplace, you must resign decisively when you encounter an extremely annoying leader!