The real relationship does not depend on flattery, but to win trust with these 3 sentences
The real relationship does not depend on flattery, but to win trust with these 3 sentences
Networking is a topic that we cannot avoid in our whole life. No matter what industry we are engaged in, or what position we are in, interpersonal communication is particularly important.
Network is a resource, but also a kind of wealth.
Many people understand the importance of contacts, but they don't know how to acquire and accumulate them.
The real relationship, in the final analysis, does not rely on flattery, but uses these three sentences to win trust.
The first sentence: learn to praise the merits of others
We often say that doing a good deed every day adds a touch of brilliance and hope to the lives of others.
Just imagine, on the street, a stranger suddenly said to you "You are so beautiful today", will your mood suddenly change?
Although I doubt myself at first, I still have an inexplicable emotion in my heart, which is happiness.
It is the same principle when interacting with people, whether it is a familiar person or a person who is not very familiar, learn to praise each other's advantages. Over time, you will surely gain something.
There is no one in this world who does not like to listen to nice words.
Discovering the strengths of others is a skill and a test of eyesight. If you can practice this skill, let alone making friends, it is not a problem to form a high-quality network of contacts.
If you have nothing to do and praise others, it is like doing a good deed every day. Not only does it add happiness to the other person's life, but it also makes your own mood better.
The second sentence: give advice to others, not orders
Communication between people is a mutual process. How you treat others, others will treat you.
Smart people make friends and often know how to give each other more advice, instead of talking to others in a commanding tone.
At any time, in the face of anyone, do not use your own subjective consciousness to make decisions for the other party. Because you are not him, you cannot understand his feelings and situation.
The more you like people who think they are the masters of others, the easier it is to be hated.
On the contrary, people who know how to express themselves in euphemism are more pleasing. Maybe the other party may not listen to what you say, but they will definitely understand that what you say is for their own good.
Be grateful, and over time, you will inevitably have trust.
Thinking from another angle, if you speak to him in a commanding tone, even if it makes sense, it is for his good, but the other party may not appreciate it.
The third sentence: Even if the other party is wrong, be tolerant
As the saying goes: whoever has no faults, can improve after passing, and goodness is great.
Everyone makes mistakes, as long as there is no principled fault, they deserve to be forgiven.
Even if the other party does something wrong, we must learn to be tolerant and say more words of comfort.
When a person is at a low point, you choose to pull him, rather than fall into trouble, this kind of kindness, the other party must keep in mind.
We often say: the icing on the cake is good, but it is especially rare to give help in the snow.
A person who understands tolerance is often more likely to gain the trust and approval of others.
As the saying goes, the benevolent is invincible. Always entangled in other people's faults and caress about others, not only will they be hated by others, but also damage their own demeanor, which is completely unnecessary.
It is better to be more tolerant and gain the trust of the other party.
Therefore, to make real connections, it is not about complimenting, but about being able to say the above three sentences. I hope some of my experiences and insights can help you build a broad network of contacts.