The more incompetent people are, the more they will have these 5 performances at the wine table, no wonder they are looked down upon
At the dinner table and wine table, it is often not to eat, but to eat the worldly connections and drink connections.
Especially for Chinese-style dinners, young people are very disgusted and are afraid to avoid them, but for people in the workplace and business, they have to socialize. Because if you are not good at socializing, you will definitely not be able to accumulate enough contacts, relationships, channels and resources.
Usually, you communicate more and invest more. When you encounter difficulties, someone will lend a helping hand.
In reality, 9 out of 10 people who succeed in everything come out of eating, drinking and socializing. Because of a meal, you can see through a person. It is clear at a glance whether it is worth making friends and whether it is possible to cooperate.
Therefore, it is often difficult for people who do not know how to entertain. Generally speaking, the more incompetent people are, the more they will have the following five performances at the wine table, no wonder they will be looked down upon.
1. Seating at will, without rules
There should be a bottom line and constraints in everything you do, including eating and drinking.
There are no rules and no radius, especially for formal dinners, the seating order is strictly required.
Generally speaking, a dinner party is generally divided into the roles of host, host and guest, and accompanying guest.
People who don't understand the rules and the worldly manners, when they attend a dinner party, they just sit casually when they come up. No matter what the occasion is, I don’t know how to be humble and polite.
If you sit in another position, that's all, but if you accidentally sit in the seat of the host or host and guest, it will cause the atmosphere at the scene to be very embarrassing.
Once this happens, think about it from another angle, what will the host and guests think? You will definitely feel that you are neither big nor small, without rules, and unusable.
If it is a leader, I will definitely not take you out to socialize again next time.
2. Ordering is all based on preferences, never taking into account the feelings of others
Ordering food is a big question in the dinner party. Those who really have the ability to order food will first give way to the host and guest at the table, and then accompany the guests and let the guests order food.
After the guest refuses, the host will take over, and in the process of ordering, you should know how to ask others if they have any taboos, and also take into account the habits and tastes of the guests.
And people who are incompetent will be much poorer in how they behave in the world. When I got to the table, I took the menu and started to look at it. I ordered all the food I liked, and I didn't care about the other people on the table.
Such a person, after a dinner, the crowd at the table will definitely not be willing to interact with him any more.
3. Nonsense, biased topics, self-centered
The more capable people are, the more they will understand the beauty of adulthood at dinner parties, they will be humble and respectful, and they will never say nonsense and brag in front of others.
Only people who are incompetent will talk nonsense, talk freely, and say whatever comes to mind. I don't know how to guide the atmosphere, and I always talk about some irrelevant topics. Even if no one agrees and no one is interested, he still talks to himself and is happy by himself.
This kind of person, especially self-centered, seems to liven up the atmosphere at the scene, but in fact, it has no effect, just feels good about himself.
Fourth, clamoring to pay
In the dinner party, paying the bill has always been the most concerned issue.
People with ability and high profile will be particularly low-key, and they will buy orders before or in the middle of eating.
It is a good thing to pay the bill, it can not only show your generosity, but also make people feel thoughtful. But if you deliberately show off, it will inevitably make people feel that the pattern is small.
Therefore, paying the bill in a low-key manner and paying the bill silently is the real high-end gameplay.
The more clamoring to pay the bill at the dinner party, and the one who competes with others to snatch it, the most likely to be looked down upon.
Five, greedy for petty cheap, follow tobacco and wine
People who are incompetent always like to covet some small bargains. No matter what the occasion, they don't forget to pack meals and drink alcohol.
If it's a private party, that's fine. But if it is a formal occasion, especially a business dinner, it will inevitably damage the company's image and leave a bad impression on customers.
You are thick-skinned and don't care what others think, but you can't affect the major event of enterprise cooperation in any way.
In particular, people who go along with smoking and drinking don't pay for themselves and don't feel distressed, they know that they take advantage of others. Once you have the first time, others will not be willing to invite you again next time.
Moreover, the reputation of being greedy for cheap will soon spread, and it will spread to ten, ten to one hundred, and more and more people will definitely not dare to communicate with you.
Therefore, if people want to get along well, they will inevitably have to entertain all kinds of dinners. The knowledge here cannot be taught in schools, and can only be accumulated through practice.
As long as you can eat the food thoroughly and drink the wine properly, it will definitely not be too bad.