Leader asked: Someone is talking bad about you behind your back! The fool immediately asked back, the wise man answered like this

Leader asked: Someone is talking bad about you behind your back! The fool immediately asked back, the wise man answered like this

In the workplace, intrigue is a common thing, and even sometimes the boss will have some problems to test you to see if you can be useful.

For example, the leader suddenly called you to the office and asked: Someone is talking bad about you behind your back.

At this time, fools often cannot restrain their curiosity and immediately ask back. Open a mouth and fall into a trap. A really smart person would answer that, and the boss would appreciate it.

I use a story to tell you why this is true:

One day, Wu Zetian and Di Renjie were chatting and suddenly said: Huaiying, you did a good job in Runan, but someone spoke ill of you in front of me, do you want to know who it is?

Di Renjie was startled, and immediately understood that Wu Zetian trusted himself, he was clearly digging a hole. If I can't help being curious, I'm afraid I'll have to play it in minutes.

Di Renjie replied respectfully: If Your Majesty thinks I am wrong, I will correct it immediately; if Your Majesty thinks I am right, I thank you for your trust. As for who spoke ill of me, I don't want to know.

Wu Zetian was greatly appreciated after hearing this, and since then he trusted Di Renjie even more, and even obeyed him.

Why is Di Renjie's handling very clever?

First: no curiosity, no refutation

When others speak ill of you, you can't be curious and you can't argue.

Because curiosity represents a small mind, and refutation represents a low pattern.

Leaders are not fools. You can judge who is a good person and who is a villain. You don't need to talk too much.

The more impatient you are, the easier it is to fall into other people's traps.

Di Renjie's cleverness is that he gave Wu Zetian the initiative unconditionally and let the other party control everything. On the one hand, he showed his loyalty, and on the other hand, he showed his intelligence.

In the workplace, the boss asks similar questions just to see your attitude. If you can answer according to Di Renjie's ideas, I believe that you will definitely be appreciated.

Second: By the way, I flattered the leader

Di Renjie identified all the circumstances, and Wu Zetian made a subjective judgment of right and wrong. His remarks can be said to be invisibly flattering.

If the leader says you are wrong, then you are wrong. Don't have any idea of ​​refuting it. No matter what others say, it will not affect the leader's trust in you; it will not affect your loyalty to the leader.

It is only a matter of time before this is dealt with, promotion and salary increase.

Third: Intentional wins over intentional

Leaders test your loyalty. Curious or not, you can't actually satisfy the other person. The real perfect answer is when you express your truest inner thoughts.

Even if you're curious about who said bad things about you, act like it doesn't matter.

Because, you have to let the leader know that you only care about his opinion, and you don't care about other people.

This is the so-called voiceless is better than the voice, the heartless wins the heart.

So, when the leader tests you, be sure to know the meaning of the other person's question. The surface question is not important, the key is to see how the leader wants to hear your answer.