Expand your network, keep these 3 points in mind, the more you trouble others, the better your popularity will be

Expand your network, keep these 3 points in mind, the more you trouble others, the better your popularity will be

I don't know if you have heard of the "Franklin effect", it tells a story.

Franklin became the secretary of the state legislature, and he wanted to get closer to various officials, and one of them hated him.

Therefore, Franklin paid special attention to the other party, and when he learned that the congressman had books at home, he wrote to him to borrow them.

The hard work paid off, and the book was finally sent to Franklin. Since then, the congressman changed his attitude towards him, and the two became very good friends.

Many people may think this story is nothing special, but it just tells us that compared with the people you have helped, those who have helped you will quickly get closer to you.

So, if you want to befriend someone, let him help you, not you.

Because the other party has gained a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction in the process of helping you, and will naturally pay more attention to you.

Therefore, if we want to expand our network, we should not be afraid to trouble others. Keep the following three points in mind, and I believe that there will be more and more friends around you.

Point 1: Proactively build connections

As far as the "Franklin effect" is concerned, it tells us that if we want to approach a person, we must learn to make excuses.

Asking the other person to help you happens to be a very good excuse. Although it is just a borrowed book in name, the connection is often established naturally because of the visits.

This method is equally applicable both in the workplace and in life, it just needs to change the borrowing mode into a model according to the specific situation.

In interpersonal relationships, don't be afraid to trouble others, and take the first step bravely. If you don't even try, how do you know that others don't want to be troubled by you?

When a person "weak" needs help, both the vanity and the doer will help for some reason, and all you have to do is to find this opportunity.

For others, being able to help you is the best embodiment of their value, which means that they are needed and have a sense of existence.

Therefore, in the social process, we must learn to eliminate timidity and seek help bravely.

The second point: face is a stumbling block to expand contacts

Only when a person can save himself can he be promoted, get a salary increase, and expand his network of contacts.

People who love face too much have difficulties in promotion in the workplace, are unwilling to bow their heads, and are even more unwilling to lose face to fight for the opportunity to make contacts for themselves.

Put on a high profile, don't think someone will take the initiative to make friends with you.

To establish a network of contacts, to gain the approval of others, and to accommodate you in everything, just ask, who would be willing to deal with you?

Not only in the workplace, but in life, there are many opportunities to pass by, all because we care too much about our own face, so we give up.

When I wake up, I can only regret that I didn't grasp it well at first.

You know, with contacts, there are resources, and it is easier to succeed if you have resources. Having money, status, connections, and fame is the real face.

The third point: trouble others to grasp the scale

There are boundaries between people, especially before contact. If you are too unruly and don't pay attention to scale, not only will you not be able to close the relationship, but it will backfire and be disgusting.

Therefore, when we trouble others, we must choose the right time and choose the right thing. You can't ask a stranger to borrow 10,000 yuan as soon as you come up, right? Anyone will reject you.

When your colleagues are overwhelmed with work, don't bother. I was always troubled by work, and I was harassed by you. I must be in a bad mood. What kind of good impression can I have on you?

To be a human being, you must be aware of current affairs, overthink big and small things, and think twice before you act.

After you have troubled others, you must know how to express your gratitude and exchange with courtesy, so that the relationship can be maintained for a long time.