At the class reunion, I secretly paid the bill and left, and when I got home, I saw the group message, and my heart was half-shattered.
At the class reunion, I secretly paid the bill and left, and when I got home, I saw the group message, and my heart was half-shattered.
With the change of the times, the reunion of classmates has gradually become pure and full of copper smell.
There are many people who are more and more reluctant to participate in similar occasions. If they do well, the people around them are constantly in trouble. If they do not do well, they will be ridiculed and ridiculed.
Therefore, considering comprehensively, avoid it if you can, and try not to go there.
But sometimes, meetings are unavoidable, and if you don’t go, others say you are high-pitched and arrogant, and you get a bad reputation.
No, some time ago, there was a message from the group of classmates, it turned out that someone organized a class reunion. I haven't seen each other for many years, and the familiar classmates are looking forward to recalling the glorious past together.
With an uneasy mood, I came to the party. I was not very outstanding, and I just exchanged a few words with my classmates. Most of the time I watch them perform and listen to them talk.
It is undeniable that some secular phenomena inevitably appear at class reunions. For example, classmates who do well are touting each other, and some classmates who do not do well are regarded as objects of entertainment. Although it was just a joke, it was still uncomfortable to hear.
I was full of food and drink. I didn’t think there was much sense in continuing such a party, so I simply made an excuse and left in the middle. By the way, I secretly bought the order.
Who would have thought that when I took out my mobile phone when I got home and saw the information in the group of my classmates, I instantly felt a chill in my heart.
It was a good intention to pay the bill, but it turned out to be a villain. Those classmates who thought they did well, because they didn't buy the order, felt very embarrassed, so they kept targeting me.
One group of people said that I wanted to be in the limelight, and I liked to pretend to be a fat man. Another group of people said that I had a lot of money, and I pretended to be low-key and deep when I was eating. It turned out to be a pig and a tiger.
In the face of the speculation and ridicule of my classmates, I was speechless. I didn't know how to justify it, and I didn't want to. I sighed, maybe this is human nature?
Through this class reunion, I deeply understand two truths:
The first: socializing is an art
Although I am saddened to be misunderstood by my classmates, I have to admit that I have not dealt with the matter of secretly paying the bill.
If, I know more about social skills and good at building interpersonal relationships, I believe I can come up with a better solution.
For example, if I pay the bill generously, will it be another result?
The group of classmates is an important network section in one's life, which is rare and cannot be given up. It can only be said that I was too ignorant and did not understand the art of socializing, which led to the dilemma behind.
The second: don't use your kindness to test human nature
Originally, I didn’t have too many thoughts in my heart. I just felt that I was very embarrassed. I was the first to leave, and I always wanted to do something.
Unexpectedly, my act of kindness touched the darkest side of human nature and was met with all kinds of suspicion.
The "benefits" of paying the bill should be taken by the students who did well.
No wonder they hated me so much, took me as a thorn in their side, and criticized and laughed at me in the group.
This time, I had a good understanding of the brilliance of human nature. In the future, in similar occasions, you should avoid it if you can, and participate as little as possible.
The above are the lessons I learned from my personal experience. I wonder if readers and friends have the same experience?