When you ask neighbors to suggest repeating, they are not willing to let you repeat. Why is this?

After the results of the college entrance examination are announced every year, the topic of "whether to repeat the study" is always hotly debated. Many families who are unsure of the answer will go to their neighbors or relatives and friends to see if they have any suggestions. But most of the final answers are "repeat is not recommended". So why does this happen? In fact, these three points are inseparable.

First, dare not take responsibility

We all know that repeating studies is risky. On the one hand, the results of the college entrance examination next year are unknown. Maybe you will do better or worse. If it is the latter, you will waste a year and live up to it. parents' expectations. On the other hand, there are many uncontrollable factors in the future. In addition to the college entrance examination results, natural disasters, examination status, examination difficulty, etc. are all uncertain. Therefore, under such a background, none of the neighbors dared to tell you to "go to repeat the study", because they could not bear these responsibilities, and it was easy to play the role of "thanksgiving".

Second, do not understand the repeat group

Although there is a chance of "one more time" for repeat reading, many neighbors don't know whether your child is suitable for repeat reading, so they end the topic with "not recommended". In fact, if you want to repeat the study, you can not only listen to the opinions of your neighbors, but also see whether you are suitable or not. For example, the score is different from the usual model test score by a few points, and the score fluctuates too much. You can almost get into a good school or hit the cutoff. These two types of people belong to the "suitable for repeating" group, but if you are a person who cannot endure hardships, has a particularly poor foundation, and has low psychological quality, then you don't have to force yourself to repeat it. It makes sense for your neighbors to give a negative answer without knowing which group you belong to.

Third, do not recognize the excellence of others

The phrase "children from other families" is a "nightmare" for almost all students. Children are afraid of comparing each other, but parents are constantly "comparing with each other". So, if your neighbors are very jealous, even if they are confident in your repetition path, when you ask them to give their opinion, they will deliberately say "repetition is not recommended". Although such people belong to a small group, it cannot be denied that they are "unwilling to admit that others are excellent".