Why the gap between you and others is getting bigger and bigger, all because of these 3 reasons after get off work
Harvard has a well-known theory: the difference between people is in their spare time, and a person's fate is determined between 8:00 and 10:00 in the evening. Set aside 2 hours every night to read, study, think or participate in intentional speeches and discussions, you will find that your life is changing, and after a few years of persistence, success will beckon you.
There are many ways of self-improvement. Many people will tell us what specific things we can do during this time period, but I would like to talk about what behaviors or misunderstandings are affecting our improvement during this time period. Avoid these misunderstandings, even if we don't have a clear direction for self-improvement, I believe you can feel your own changes in the process.
The first mistake is participating in pointless social events.
Partners who are new to the workplace, especially those who are single, have a lot of free time themselves. It is indispensable for friends to come out to chat and drink nonsense. From food stalls to KTV, two bottles of beer are bragging. It is not impossible to participate in this kind of activity, but within a reasonable frequency and time, do not let meaningless social activities occupy your free time, let alone pursue and get used to these meaningless social activities.
How to distinguish whether these social activities are meaningful? The key is to see if you have all the gains in this process, and the things you gain, from work to life, from personal growth to social experience, are meaningful as long as you think they are valuable.
Why the gap between you and others is getting bigger and bigger, all because of these 3 reasons after get off work
The second misunderstanding is to get yourself used to fragmented learning methods.
More and more Internet products and knowledge learning channels are using our fragmented time for marketing. And more and more people are also accustomed to fragmented reading and learning. It is right to make full use of fragmented time, but if your learning is fragmented, then a very serious consequence is that you cannot do anything about it. To form a systematic knowledge framework, the understanding of things and knowledge is also fragmented, and it is difficult for you to have deep accumulation and precipitation. You can listen to someone tell you a book in ten minutes, but don't lose the habit of reading a complete book, because the complete knowledge structure cannot be obtained in a ten-minute reading program.
Why the gap between you and others is getting bigger and bigger, all because of these 3 reasons after get off work
The third mistake is keeping yourself in your comfort zone for too long.
I was already very tired from work and work during the day. After get off work, I lay on the bed after dinner and swiped Douyin. Before I knew it, an hour passed, and then I swiped Weibo again, and another half an hour passed. You forward those inspirational articles in the circle of friends, want to tell others that I work hard, and then close the circle of friends and open the glory of the king.
Relaxation and entertainment is a necessary need for everyone. Douyin, Weibo, Moments, King of Glory... These are our comfort zones, where we can spend an hour or two without stress, but if we stay Being in our comfort zone doesn't help us grow.
Human nature is enjoyment, greed, and desire. All Internet products are using the weaknesses of human nature for product design. Self-learning is a dehumanizing thing, which means pressure, effort, and challenge. Everyone knows that no one can succeed casually, but not everyone is willing to take the path that is not casual. If you want to improve yourself, you must first pull yourself out of your comfort zone. There is a saying that goes well: "Whoever causes me pain will make me strong". We all know that we can't see the rainbow without experiencing the wind and rain, so if we want to grow ourselves, shouldn't we take the initiative to look for the wind and rain?
Why the gap between you and others is getting bigger and bigger, all because of these 3 reasons after get off work
Even if we don't know what things can improve ourselves at the moment, as long as you get rid of the above three misunderstandings, you are already improving yourself. After all, the most important prerequisite for self-improvement is to have a good self-management habit!
If you want to ask me what specific things can I do? Go to study, go to exercise, watch high-scoring movies on Douban, communicate with people who are better than you, learn a skill, write a work summary, plan for tomorrow, set a short-term goal for yourself, etc. Wait, there is so much that can be done. Even if what you do is not directly related to work and career development, you have developed the habit of learning and self-management. Stick with it for a long time, and you are already improving.