If you are not in your twenties, are you planning to retire?
1
At the end of this year, I went home for the Chinese New Year. The news of the reunion of friends who had not seen in three or five years flooded in like a tide. There was only one purpose: long time no see, get together. Explore and explore life. I still like this long-lost familiarity. All your youth and youth are in the memory of these few people. After the meal, everyone felt that it was too early to go back, and there were no entertainment facilities in the township. A friend said, let's go play cards.
So, we opened a box and started. During this period, I asked my friend who proposed to play poker, do you come here often? He said, "Yes, there are not many things to do in the company. I get off work on time every day, and I have nothing to do. Just come here to have some fun."
I asked him, what about your energy before? Why is it no different from the old man now?
He said: I also wondered if this was a bit sluggish, but it was too boring after get off work. At first, I had no interest, but after playing, I became interested.
I don't know why I feel a little lost. In fact, this friend is my high school classmate and college alumnus. During his school days, he was considered a well-known community leader in our school. He is shrewd and capable. This is the teacher's impression of him. In my eyes, he would be someone who worked hard and inspired to read for the rise of China.
Ease, like a drug, gradually numbs your heart in your most comfortable state, and when you find it, you no longer know where to start to remedy it.
2
In fact, there is very little contact with classmates in the university. There is only one Chen left, so let's call him Mr. Chen first. We are studying e-commerce. to work in this industry after graduation. Only Mr. Chen.
In fact, his grades are really not very good, and they are quite satisfactory, but I often watch the poster making and online shop design taught by his teacher who is still perfecting in the early morning. The rest of us just finished it hastily, and the biggest requirement is that the teacher does not fail the class at the end of the term.
I asked him, what's the use of making a picture so meticulously? It's not a matter of fractions. He said: Finished does not equal to good, after all, it is also a craft, isn't it?
After that, he ran for part-time jobs in various online store companies, doing product design, online store design, looking for cooperative merchants, optimizing the title... In short, he has a lot of professional knowledge.
After graduating, he entered a Taobao company. Others clocked in and got off work as soon as they arrived, but he often didn't leave the company until eleven or twelve. The boss asked for a plan, and other colleagues gave three, but he repeatedly failed. They were all four or five. It only took a few months to become a store manager. Two years later, he established his own online store company, and it was very successful.
I asked him: why are you fighting so hard?
He said: If you don't fight now, is there anyone else fighting for you?
3
When you go to school, there are exams, rankings, teachers, parents, and various forces forcing you to study and grow. There are at least mid-term and final exams in a semester. If you progress or go backwards, there will be feedback soon.
But after entering the society, you may not realize that you have been doing a job repeatedly for several years, and after three or five years, you will see that the gap between you and others is getting bigger and bigger. Some people start their own businesses, some get promoted quickly, and some people make their lives the way you want them to be.
You still wonder why the gap has suddenly become so big?
Because others are reading books while you are playing mahjong, because others are participating in various trainings while you are watching TV series, and because others are constantly learning new things and practicing skills when you are wasting time.
After entering the society, no one is staring at you, no one applauds you every time you grow, no one reminds you every time you waste, and there is only time that never stops.
4
My poker friend didn't like to play poker either, he just had nothing to do. He once wondered if this was the life he wanted, but as soon as he had this thought, he was destroyed by the leisure after get off work, yeah. In places like towns and villages, it is not as fast-paced as a big city. If you don’t change and don’t make progress, you take it for granted. Is it possible that after you get off work, you ask people to wash and sleep at eight o’clock?
It turns out that the most frightening thing is people's habit of the status quo. After the frog is boiled in warm water, the frog no longer knows the pain. When it wants to change, it does not know where to start.