When we just graduated from the university, a few of our college classmates joined the company together. The college students were not afraid of tigers and wanted to do something. But after joining the company, they found that the company's performance was average. Although it was a Singapore-listed company, it was usually There is not much work assigned to this branch, and training is carried out every day. After the training is completed, there are not too many important tasks, just some miscellaneous tasks, which are all completed before the end of get off work.

At that time, when World of Warcraft first came out, a few of us started playing games after get off work. We formed a team, and the name was a poem: "There is no ancient person before, and no one will come later. "The four of them were so happy in the game.

In this way, when we get off work, if we have nothing to do, we will go to get off work directly. We are not like other people who work overtime in the company. The boss has opinions on several of us and doesn't like us. The tasks we are assigned are all dirty work. Promotions and salary increases are none of our business.

At this time, I found the leader to see if there were other tasks, but found no. We tried to work overtime, but found that it was very uncomfortable. We tried hard, but it was difficult to change. What should I do if the leader doesn't like it?

1 Boss’s biases are hard to change

When a few of us play games, we feel that we are playing with things and feel like we can’t do things. In fact, we are no busier or worse than anyone, but it’s useless to work hard.

In psychology, there is primacy effect, which was first proposed by American psychologist Lochins. It is also called first effect, priority effect or first impression effect. It refers to the influence of the first impression formed by both parties on the future relationship. , that is, the effect of "preconceptions". Although these first impressions are not always correct, they are the most vivid and firm, and determine the course of future exchanges between the two parties.

A few of us play games, and we always feel that we are not doing our jobs properly. In fact, we didn’t delay our work. We only went out to play when we finished our get off work. We also tried to work hard and prepare to perform well, but it did not change the boss's opinion.

2 Being disliked by leaders, it is easy to destroy self-confidence

To be honest, that period of time was really hard. Going to work every day was like going to the grave, and I was so depressed that I couldn’t breathe. I just graduated from my home and I was afraid that I would have to pay liquidated damages. No reason to resign.

During this period of time, the boss will focus on your shortcomings, ignore your strengths, do the most tiring work, get the least salary, only make a few mistakes, and scold you for doubting yourself. As long as there is a little mistake, I always reflect on what went wrong, never dare to discuss it with the leader, let alone suspect that it is the problem of the leader's assignment of work.

In this way, I am very unconfident, and even more afraid to communicate with the leader. When I meet the leader in the morning, I can only say good morning, and then I feel overwhelmed, and I don’t even dare to say goodbye.

3 Following the right boss is more important than hard work

Two years later, the contract expired, and the boss did not say to renew the contract. I found my next home in advance, and directly joined the new company after the contract expired.

In the eyes of the boss who doesn't like you, you are an eyesore. You are a tool person. Wherever there is dirty work, you will be assigned to it. It will not give you opportunities, it will only hurt you, and it will not make you grow.

In the boss who likes you, if he thinks you are capable, he will give you a chance. If you are not, he will provide you with guidance, help you mount a horse, and give you a ride. This allows for rapid growth.

In the new company, I met the later leader, Manager Li. He is my noble person. After arriving in the company, I can talk to him about things that are not good. He will guide us to learn and tell us how to grow.

When a new task comes, how to decompose, plan, deal with it, and do something wrong is no longer a cold scolding, but a summary and review together to make people grow.

4 How to deal with the leadership's dislike?

The fate of people is very strange, and some people meet at a glance, so that they can cooperate happily in the future. Some people are awkward, so they have problems getting along with them. What should I do if I encounter them?

1) First of all, it is necessary to distinguish whether it is strict or has an opinion on you?

Some people feel that the leader is targeting you and dislikes you as soon as the leader points out a mistake. This is not necessarily true.

Some leaders are more strict and have high requirements. If you fail to meet the requirements, you will be told.

So to distinguish whether it is a strict requirement or against you, how to distinguish?

First, the requirements of this leader are not uniform. This is the case for all colleagues. For everyone to have the same requirements, that is strict requirements. If it's against you alone, it doesn't like you.

Second, the leader finds out whether the problem is only abusive, not directed at the problem. It's not like you.

After distinguishing, if it is a strict requirement, it can actually be achieved with hard work. This is a very important means to improve oneself. If you survive this period, you can grow rapidly.

If you don't like you, take action.

2) Find new opportunities and leave at any time

Since the leader doesn't like it, then go out and look for new opportunities. There is no need to hesitate, and you can leave at any time when you find an opportunity.

3) If you can't walk, study and work hard instead of getting angry

If due to various reasons, you can't go temporarily, then study hard, study on the job, and save energy for the next job.

The knowledge learned and the experience at work are all your own. You must be clear about your purpose. In addition to getting your salary, you also have the experience and contacts you have learned.

There is one way of doing things that is not worth it, that is to act in anger, let yourself fall into emotions, make more and more mistakes, the leader scolds, and then blames, shirks, and gets angry, which wastes your time.

5 at the end

When you are in the company, you are not liked by the leaders. If it is for a long time, then it is the best plan. Otherwise, you can only get yourself out of the disease and will not grow. There are so many opportunities now, don't hang yourself on a tree with a crooked neck.