These 3 steps are indispensable for making excellent contacts at dinner, and the last step is the key
Adult dinners are often "the drunkard's intention is not the wine". On the surface, it seems that everyone gets together to eat and drink, but in fact, they have their own thoughts. The ultimate goal is often to make contacts and prepare for future requests for help. If you want to make good contacts at dinner, then the following 3 steps are indispensable, and the last step is the key!
1. Make relevant preparations for the meal.
As the saying goes, "Know yourself, know your enemy, and fight a hundred battles." If you want to make excellent contacts at a dinner party, you must start preparing for it before the dinner party. For example, you need to know some of the guests attending the dinner in advance, and then analyze who is your "target" in this dinner, what they like and do, prepare relevant topics in advance, and then you can easily catch what you want. People's attention.
for example:
A certain guest you want to meet likes to chat about travel, but if you don’t know his preferences, you may not be able to talk to them at dinner. Even if you do talk to them, it will be cold due to lack of topics. The atmosphere became awkward. If you prepare in advance, you will be able to talk freely with the other party and make the other party impress you. After all, when someone has a common topic with you, it is easy to have a feeling of "like-mindedness", and they will be more willing to contact them. and even develop into friendships.
The author's friend Xiao Wang is a very smart person. Every time he participates in a dinner party, he will definitely collect the information of the guests through various channels and prepare various topics in advance. Chatting and laughing with the big guy he wants to make friends with, and eventually turning them into a member of his network.
Second, know how to lower your posture.
When participating in a dinner party, it seems that this type of person will always be indispensable at the wine table. Relying on their good drinking capacity, they will frequently persuade everyone to drink. The persuasion words are also interesting and the etiquette is very thoughtful. Such people seem to be well-mannered, but will they really gain excellent contacts in the dinner party? Can they make real friends?
The answer is quite the opposite. Such people show their strength and talents everywhere in the dinner party, and in the end they only gain friends who are just as good at disguising as them.
People who often attend dinner parties know that the better the people are, the more low-key they are at the wine table. They often lower their stance and take the initiative to praise others. There are many people who don't care about this, thinking that those people are too stupid, but they don't know that this is precisely what other people are smart about!
There is no one who does not love face in the world. Everyone is eager to win the respect of others. At dinner, many people often will not be outdone and choose to use bragging to win the so-called "face". Smart people will understand other people's good face psychology, and make good use of it!
The ancients said : "The gentleman shows his shortcomings, but not his strengths. The villain uses his wisdom, not his clumsiness." The real wise man deliberately exposes his shortcomings and conceals his strengths. On the other hand, villains are good at playing tricks to hide their clumsiness.
Those who are good at showing their deficiencies and shortcomings are the ones who can really gain connections at the dinner party. The answer is very simple, because only by "exposing" one's own shortcomings will they be regarded as prey by others.
For example, the purpose of our participation in a certain dinner is to negotiate a business. The smart way is to lower our profile, take the initiative to show weakness, and appropriately show our modesty. In this way, the other party will not deliberately guard against you when talking about business, because a relatively "stupid" person is not worth the effort to deal with.
Therefore, the more modest and respectful you are, the more the other party will think that you are friendly and reliable. Even if the business is obviously beneficial to you, the other party will not lower his own value and lose face to care about the length of your life.
Third, use the same interests to expand contacts.
Two people want to form a strong and stable relationship, not only related to the same experience and common values, but also related to common interests. In the social dinner party, whether you can hand over the nobles depends on whether you can find a common point of interest. "The world is bustling for profit, and the world is bustling for profit." This is the truth. Interest is the most direct and most beneficial thing. No one will have a hard time with "money". If you want to make good contacts, you must know what benefits you can bring to him.
Some people think the exact opposite. They always think about what benefits others can bring to them. In the end, it will be difficult for them to gain excellent connections. After all, others will be willing to "equally talk" with you only if their interests are equal. Only with common interests and needs can a deep social network and a deep and strong relationship be formed.
If you want to make good contacts at dinner, the above 3 steps are indispensable, and the last step is the key!