These 3 kinds of dinners, smart people will not participate if they see it through, and they will not go if they are invited.
What is a smart person? A smart person is someone who can see through other people's routines in time and does not "step on the pit". Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, and the existence of rivers and lakes means that all kinds of routines are emerging one after another. People who do not have "two brushes" on their bodies often suffer from all kinds of big losses.
For example, in these three kinds of dinners, smart people will not participate if they see it through, and they will not go to white invitations. There is a high probability that they will suffer a loss. People who don't understand are still rushing to go, but they don't know that disaster is coming.
- Let you be a "peacemaker" to ease the relationship.
Everyone loves face, but some face you really can't have, because it's not a face, but a "hot potato".
For example, if someone asks you to be a "peacemaker" to ease the relationship, it is recommended that you don't go there. Unless you are a professional mediator of conflicts, you will only get more trouble if you go there.
Many people think that when people invite me to such a dinner, it shows that I have prestige, and they invite me with kindness, so how can I not go? So he took part in the dinner with a righteous and awe-inspiring demeanor.
As the saying goes, "The authorities are obsessed, and the bystanders are clear." If you attended this dinner and accidentally said something wrong, not only did you not ease the relationship, but it worsened the relationship between the two parties, and even had a fight, then how could you? Isn't that the "sinners of the ages"? It would be strange if the person who invited you didn't scold you at that time!
Therefore, smart people will never go to this kind of dinner that makes you a "peacemaker" and eases the relationship. After all, this kind of dinner is a "quagmire" if it sounds ugly. I was deeply trapped in it, I couldn't get out easily, and I also made myself a mess.
- Dinner for those who are disgusted by leaders.
The most taboo thing in the workplace is to go against the leader, because it is related to your future development. Therefore, if someone who is disgusted by the leader invites you to a dinner party, unless there are special circumstances that you have to go to, it is best not to go to the dinner, because there is no airtight wall in the world, once you go, once you are led by the leader Knowing, then it will definitely make the leaders think more.
Smart people will never participate in the dinner of those whom the leader dislikes, because as long as he does, the leader will classify you as the person he hates. Do you think you will have a good life in the company in the future? ?
Therefore, if you are invited to dinner by someone who is hated by the leader, or who is in opposition to the leader, I suggest you not to go, because if you go, someone will definitely report it to the leader. .
- A meal for people with poor character.
No matter what the occasion, people with bad character are unpopular and unpopular. After all, no matter what this kind of person does, he always thinks about his own interests. He always has a lot of scheming and shrewdness in doing things. It is really tiring to get along with such a person, because you have to be on guard against each other all the time, otherwise you will be deeply troubled. suffer from it.
Therefore, if it is a dinner party invited by a person with poor character, you should not go there anyway, because there is no free lunch in the world, and a dinner party invited by a person with poor character like this is clearly a "Hongmen Banquet". He usually invites you to dinner when he asks you to.
If you go, then in his eyes, you are helping him by default. If you don't help, you will definitely be resented by him again. Being hated by the villain, do you think you can live a stable life in the future?
Therefore, smart people will never go to the dinner of people with bad character.