The leader invites you to a dinner party. If you don't see through these two points, the more confused you are, the worse you will be
Xiaowei has been working hard since graduation, hoping that one day he will be able to "get ahead". Although Xiao Wei's work ability is not bad, his interpersonal skills are relatively poor. What he is most afraid of is getting along with leaders, because he has been an introvert since he was a child.
The department "airborne" a leader. This new leader cares about the employees. He heard that Xiao Wei's work ability is "one of the best" in the department, so at noon one day, he specially invited Xiao Wei to have lunch together.
Xiao Wei was worried in an instant, because he knew very well that the leader was "the drunkard's intention is not the wine", and he wanted to find out his "details" in the name of eating.
In fact, this can't be blamed for Xiaowei's deliberately wanting to stay away from the new leader, because he heard that the new leader is a person who is fierce and strict. Wei's head.
Moreover, Xiao Wei also learned from colleagues who have a good relationship with him that several other colleagues with good working ability in the department have also been invited by the leader to have dinner. Then these colleagues kept a low profile at work and did nothing. It was obviously "beaten" by the leader.
Later, Xiaowei directly refused the invitation of the leader. Since then, Xiaowei obviously felt that he was not welcomed by the leader, but Xiaowei didn't know what to do.
In fact, when we encounter a relatively embarrassing situation like Xiao Wei, we might as well think about the following two points.
- If you don't want to have a meal with the leader, how can you refuse?
The reason why we don't want to have a meal with the leader is often because we hate each other, which is "disappetizing" to put it badly. You don't want to ruin your mood to have a good lunch because of him.
Of course, if you have already made an appointment with someone, or have other important matters to deal with and have to refuse, it is naturally another matter.
If you want to reject a leader, you must not reject it outright like Xiao Wei, such as "I'm not going", "I don't want to eat with you" these words must never be said. won't give you face.
To subtly refuse an invitation from a leader, you must be "smooth". First of all, you should use a tactful and humble attitude and say some "reasonable" reasons, such as "I have important business to deal with later", "" I'm not feeling well and have no appetite, I want to rest more", "I'm sorry, I already ordered takeout", "Sorry! I have an appointment first" and so on.
All in all, use your emotional intelligence to make up some white lies, and you must not refuse the invitation of the leader hastily, otherwise you will only make the leader feel that you are not willing to eat with him, and have too many unnecessary associations.
- What should leaders do when they make clichés during dinner parties?
As mentioned earlier, leaders invite their subordinates to have dinner, which is often a "drunkard's intention". Some leaders are usually in high positions, and it is not easy to hear the voices of lower-level employees, so they will use the name of eating together to take advantage of employees' hearts. When you are more relaxed, take the opportunity to talk.
You must carefully observe the tone and expression of the leader's clichés. Never think that the leader is asking you to befriend you, so you say everything stupidly, even the "top secret" between employees. "It was also revealed by you.
There is no airtight wall in the world. Be careful in the future, not only will no one dare to be your friend, but it may even exclude you and isolate you collectively.
In short, please remember that when you meet a leader who likes to talk to employees, it is nothing more than wanting to learn some "bottom" information from you. A smart professional person must know what to say and what not to say. Don't be casual. It depends on the length of the person, otherwise it will only end up in the end of "shooting yourself in the foot".