People who don't see through these 3 'hidden rules' tend to get worse and worse when attending a dinner party

After graduation, Xiaoxue successfully joined a private company. The salary of this unit is higher than that of her peers. Xiaoxue feels that the future is promising, and she secretly determined in her heart that she must work hard and strive for a promotion and salary increase next year.

On a certain weekend, Xiaoxue's university classmates made noise after a long absence. Xiaoxue turned on her mobile phone and saw that it was a suggestion from a classmate in the class. Everyone brought colleagues close to their company to have a meal and communicate with each other. For a moment, it can be considered to expand the network. Of course, this is just a suggestion, everyone who is interested can participate.

Xiaoxue thought this proposal was good, so she "registered" in the group. Due to the nature of her work, Xiaoxue will definitely use many contacts in the future. Now that she has the opportunity to expand her contacts, she naturally does not want to miss it.

With Xiaoxue taking the lead, many classmates have expressed that this proposal is a good idea. After all, one more friend is one more way, and there are definitely advantages and disadvantages to getting to know more people. There are thirty people in the class, and finally thirteen students signed up to participate. It can be seen that everyone is very positive about this dinner.

On the day of the dinner, Xiaoxue brought two well-connected female colleagues to the dinner together. The party was very lively, and Xiaoxue roughly calculated that there were more than 40 people.

The dinner party started, and everyone was a little restrained in the early stage. After all, it was the first time for most of the people to meet, and it was difficult to let go of face. However, after three rounds of drinking, everyone became much closer to each other under the numbness of alcohol, talking and laughing. Xiaoxue also took the opportunity to get to know a lot of people, maybe they will be able to become clients in her work in the future.

However, for some unknown reason, the people at the other table of Xiaoxue suddenly started making a fuss. Xiaoxue hurriedly looked around and heard vaguely in the noise: "Why do you say that to my colleague?", "How old are you? If it wasn't for the sake of my friends today, I wouldn't join in the fun", "How much does my salary have to do with you? Are you jealous?"

Xiaoxue was at a loss. Later, a classmate explained to her that there were a few short-tempered people who were unhappy after being inquired about their privacy. They always felt that they were laughing at him, and the other party was not to be outdone, so they quarreled.

Later, the dinner party broke up unhappily, and Xiaoxue said with emotion: "I don't understand the "hidden rules" of the dinner party, it's a strange thing to be able to make contacts!"

What is the "unspoken rule" of the meal in Xiaoxue's mouth? And see the analysis below.

1. When meeting for the first time, it is best not to ask other people's privacy.

Under normal circumstances, when two people meet each other for the first time or are not very familiar with each other, they feel that it is normal for them to be born. At this time, it is inevitable that only primary communication and exchanges will be conducted.

Of course, after a few glasses of wine, the topics between each other gradually increased, and it was normal to ask each other about professional hobbies and social circles. But you'd better not inquire about other people's privacy, such as how much their monthly salary is, these things are very sensitive, no matter how much or less, it will be embarrassing.

Second, do not judge others easily.

Smart people usually don’t judge others in dinner parties, and they rarely say good things. After all, there are many people in the dinner party, and they can’t figure out the relationship between all the people present in the dinner party. Others, the light ones are embarrassing for both sides, and the heavy ones may leave troubles for future interactions, which is obviously a thankless thing.

Third, do not talk about social relations.

Although it is said that there are many people participating in the dinner, the fundamental purpose is to make contacts, but before you know each other, you must not take the initiative to mention social relations.

Originally I didn’t mention relationships. Wine may be delicious and friendly to drink, which will lay a solid foundation for future friendships. However, if you want to mention social relationships, such as who you have a good relationship with and who you have a bad relationship with, then you will Unconsciously being guarded by others, and even offending people because of these relationships.

If you don't know the relationship between the person and the other party in advance, it is very likely that there will be some embarrassing scenes in the bar. To give a simple example, for example, you want to say that you have a good relationship with people, but before you can say the following, the other party starts scolding, and you have no grudges in your heart!