My colleague told you these 3 sentences. It seems to be for your own good, but in fact, it has a sinister intention.

Many people must have heard the phrase "know the face, but not the heart", but not many people really keep this sentence in their hearts. If you don't believe me, go and see how many people in the workplace have been harmed by so-called "good colleagues". The most difficult and complicated thing in the workplace is not work, but people's hearts. In fact, when a colleague told you these three sentences, it seems to be for your own good, but in fact, it has a sinister intention, and if you don't understand it, you will be tricked.

1. Talk to you about the salary of others in the same position as yours.

Everything in the workplace is relatively fair, and there can be no so-called "absolute fairness". If you have a colleague around you who pretends to secretly reveal to you that someone in the same position is paid more than you, then you should not take it too seriously, or even feel aggrieved and angry.

In fact, like this kind of colleague, the intention behind him is to provoke anger in your heart and make you feel very dissatisfied, so you either go to the leader to trouble you, or you feel that you are working harder than others anyway, not as good as There are many people, so they are passive and slack.

In either case, it's very bad for you personally, and that's exactly what your colleagues want to see.

Therefore, if a colleague tells you that others in the same position are paid more than you, don't be deceived by his words at this time, because only some people with bad intentions will stimulate your contradictions.

In short, if you want to avoid getting yourself into a bad situation, then you should care about how to improve your self-worth, not how much other people are paid. As long as your ability is strong enough and your performance is good enough, your salary will naturally “rise up”.

2. So-and-so said bad things about you behind your back.

If your colleague tells you that so-and-so speaks ill of you behind your back, you will be surprised and angry, and even find someone who speaks ill of you behind your back and have a good "theoretical" with them.

As the saying goes, "A straight body is not afraid of shadows." If you have a good character and behave in a generous way, then letting anyone say anything behind your back will be groundless and fearless.

Therefore, colleagues like this who deliberately tell you that so-and-so spoke badly about you behind your back are mostly ulterior motives and are suspected of provoking differences. From now on, you have to be careful to guard against each other, because this colleague is either jealous of your smooth work, or jealous of your popularity in the workplace. In short, no matter what the situation is, he wants to do something for you to make you less comfortable.

In any case, if you encounter such a colleague, you can laugh it off in the face of this situation, and don't take it to heart.

3. "I have more experience than you, so you are right to listen to me".

Some colleagues in the workplace always like to rely on their seniority, so they often "rely on the old and sell the old" in front of other colleagues, especially the new colleagues who have not joined the company for a long time.

If you are new to a company, there is an old colleague who is very "enthusiastic" towards you and always likes to say to you: "I have more experience than you, so you are right to listen to me". Then you should not be naive to think that the other party is for your own good, because people who say this often want to use their own experience to control others.

There are many newcomers in the workplace who do not understand this truth, especially those who have just graduated from school and stepped into the society. It is very easy for old colleagues to say "I have more experience than you, you are right to listen to me". deceived.

These old colleagues like to admonish you as an "old driver", deny you, and make you obey, but you believe it and think that the other party treats you as a buddy, but you don't know that you will be his "tool man" in the future. What dirty work will you do in the future? All the work is pushed to you, and you foolishly think that the other party "takes care" of you and looks up to you.