Knowledge of people by chat: to understand the character of the other party from the attitude of chatting, the earlier you know, the earlier you benefit

Speech is responsible for conveying the content of information and also contains certain emotional expressions. When we chat face-to-face with others, unless we say that the other party is a very shrewd person, you will definitely be able to understand the other party's true character from his chatting attitude. Of course, you want to understand other people and their ideas, but only if you ask reasonable and interesting questions, so as to increase their willingness to communicate. Master the following "chatting skills" to understand the character of the other party from the attitude of chatting, and the earlier you know, the earlier you benefit.

1. Judge the character of others through chat.

When we chat with others, we can reveal his communication style and personality by looking at the details of what topics the other person chooses to talk about, how to describe the process, and the facial expressions.

For example, those who are tepid and empathetic tend to belong to the "peaceful type" with good affinity; those who are silent and do not speak out, those who are a blockbuster, belong to the analytical type who are good at observation; those who are rich in topics, good at description, and think jumpers , belongs to the good-speaking type with a strong desire for expression; those who like to argue, often use critical and offensive words, belong to the aggressive type with a strong desire to control;

If you are in a situation where many people are chatting, it is recommended that you try to be an excellent listener. While obtaining more valuable information, you can also identify the communication mode in the interaction of the talkers and deepen the understanding of the conversation. Their understanding can be described as "killing two birds with one stone".

2. People who are very quiet in chat and do not like to express themselves.

These people are more stable and can be classified as "introverted", they like to be a "listener" rather than a narrator in the process of chatting. Even if others talk about his bad things, sarcasm him intentionally or unintentionally, he will not be in a hurry to refute him, showing his confidence invisibly.

For those who are low-key, it is difficult for you to spy on what he is thinking. They seem mediocre on the surface, but in fact they know what they want in their hearts, and silently strive for that goal.

This type of person usually works in technical work in the workplace. Because of their quiet performance, people feel very stable and trustworthy. The boss will also give him important things to do, so there is no need to worry too much about employees screwing up things. .

3. People with sharp words and strong aggressiveness.

This kind of person can be described as "reasonable and unforgiving". During the chat, their reactions are more sensitive, they often see the problem more thoroughly, and it is easy to find and grasp the weakness of the other party, and then they will take advantage of the situation to launch a sharp attack. "Attack", leaving the opponent speechless.

When you chat with such people, in all likelihood, you will feel "shameless", because their aggression is too strong. People with high emotional intelligence know that they "have to be spared and spared", but they definitely don't will easily offend you.

If you encounter such sharp-spoken and aggressive people, it is recommended that you stay away from them, because they are prone to abandon their roots, fall into conceit and paranoia, and cannot extricate themselves, and their interpersonal relationships are often poor. When you interact with such people, Must be "close to ink black".

4. People who speak negatively and often say "what should I do".

As mentioned at the beginning of the article, speech is responsible for conveying the content of information and also contains certain emotional expressions. If you often chat and communicate with people with negative words, you will definitely become a person full of "negative energy".

When they encounter anything, they often say "what should I do", "whatever you want", "you can decide" to ask for your views and opinions, and they dare not make their own choices easily. Such people have relatively weak self-awareness, and feel somewhat inferior in their hearts.

They have low self-esteem subconsciously. In order to reduce their own pressure, they dare not take the responsibility of choosing in the future, so they will give the right to choose to others.

Maybe some people like this feeling of being trusted and relied on, but the author suggests that you should not make decisions for others easily. The final decision must be left to them to choose. At most, we only need to analyze things for him. Its own pros and cons.

5. People who are behind the scenes, "after the fact Zhuge Liang".

When chatting with others, some people especially like to say something after the fact, such as: "I told you so long ago", "Who asked you not to listen to me at the beginning, now you know you regret it" and so on. .

Such people are often hypocritical and like to be self-centered in everything. If you have such colleagues around you, I suggest you not have too much contact with them. They will not bring you any substantial help, only Speaking sarcastically on the side to mock you.