In the workplace, people who can abide by these four 'bottom lines' are smart people. How many have you achieved?

As the saying goes, "The intention of harming others is indispensable, and the intention of defending others is indispensable." However, how many people can really understand this truth in a mixed workplace? Many professionals often regret that they are too unguarded and trust others too much after suffering a big loss. In fact, in the workplace, those who can abide by these four "bottom lines" are smart people. How many have you achieved?

1. Know how to refuse when it is time to refuse.

Of course, it is a good thing for us to have good thoughts in our life, but if you are too extreme, and you are a "good person" in everything, you will invisibly encourage a lot of evil and evil, and your good thoughts are very likely to "help the evildoer". The author has a friend who has suffered a lot in this regard. She used to be in the tour guide industry.

As the saying goes, "there are all kinds of birds when the forest grows." When a friend faces tourists of all kinds, she often won't refuse others, and she will agree with them no matter what they ask for, but she has suffered a lot. When she noticed that she had some interpersonal problems at work, she made up her mind and decided to get rid of this bad habit.

But it's easier said than done, because many "returning customers" acquiesce that she is someone who is easy to bully and doesn't know how to reject others. When she starts rejecting their unreasonable demands, those tourists start to say that she is stingy. Some people even went directly to the company to report her, saying that she did not know how to respect tourists and the principle of "service first". When the superiors found out, they directly deducted her half-year bonus.

"Sheng Mien fights Mi Chou", when helping people, you should also pay attention to helping those who really need help and are worthy of help.

2. After you trouble others, you should return the favor in time.

At work, everyone will encounter difficulties, and some people will habitually bury their heads and think hard by themselves, hoping to solve the problem smoothly by themselves. This approach cannot be said to be wrong, but it is definitely not a "sensible move", and it takes too much time and energy.

Some people are more flexible and choose to ask others and trouble others, which can not only solve problems quickly, but also shorten the relationship with colleagues. But this also creates a new problem: whether it's a big or small thing, you owe someone a favor.

Since ancient times, interpersonal communication has paid attention to the four characters of "reciprocity", so when you trouble others, you must pay off the other person's favor in time, such as inviting them to a meal, or giving them some gifts as thanks, so that when you are again They are willing to help you when you need them.

Why are some people in the workplace so popular wherever they go? It is because they know how to communicate with each other with courtesy and establish a good relationship with colleagues by helping each other again and again.

Third, pay more attention to getting along with colleagues.

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. In the workplace, the relationship between people is the most difficult to get along with, especially the relationship between colleagues in the same department, because you are essentially a "competitive relationship".

Not long after Xiao Liu started working, he saw his colleagues in the department, just like seeing his classmates. He even had the illusion that he was in school: everyone commutes to get off work together every day, eats together at noon, and people who are free at night meet with each other to play together. Soon, Xiao Liu treated these "classmates" as "friends". Since they are friends, they will naturally be very relaxed when they get along with each other. Xiao Liu often complains with his colleagues and complains about all kinds of "weird" things at work.

However, it didn't take long for Xiao Liu's opinion to spread throughout the entire department, especially the leader, who would "wear small shoes" for him at every turn. For a time, Xiao Zhang felt very angry and sad. He had always regarded his colleague as a good friend, but he betrayed her unimaginably.

It can be seen that the relationship between colleagues seems to be very good on the surface, but they must keep an eye on each other.

Fourth, there are "three no questions" in the workplace.

1. Don't ask about the relationship between colleagues and leaders - the workplace is the epitome of society, everyone hopes to live well, and subconsciously follows "egoism". Take care of yourself, not take care of you.

2. Don't ask about the plans of colleagues - in the workplace, everyone has their own aspirations, and everyone has their own "small abacus" in their hearts and their own plans. To put it better, it is "personal career planning". When you inquire about your colleagues' plans, not only will they not tell you the truth, but they will also be wary of you because of this, which is even more detrimental to your competition.

3. Don’t ask about the right or wrong of your colleagues – in the workplace, you always gossip about your colleagues, express your own opinions and ideas about the right and wrong of your colleagues, and this is very easy to cause damage to your own image.

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In the workplace, people who can abide by the above four "bottom lines" are smart people. How many have you achieved? Are you smart?