'Ordering' knowledge of people: people who order food like this at a dinner party are mostly ill-intentioned, and they avoid it if they can
My cousin and I have a very good relationship. During the Spring Festival, I will visit his house to pay New Year's greetings.
My cousin is ten years older than me, and has been working hard in the workplace for over ten years. He has seen all kinds of people and things, and his vision is obviously much higher than mine, so I will also take this opportunity to ask him for some advice in the workplace. question.
When we talked about workplace dinners, my cousin said: "You may not know that workplace dinners often show the "cultivation" of colleagues. Because of the nature of my job, I often participate in various workplace dinners, so I am right. It is deeply felt.”
I was curious, and quickly asked my cousin: "Isn't it just that everyone is sitting together eating and drinking, what else can you see?"
My cousin pretended to be mysterious and said to me: "It seems like an ordinary dinner, but it is possible to see through a person's character through the "ordering" technique of knowing people. Well-intentioned, you'd better avoid it if you can, so as not to be "pitted" by such people in the unit in the future."
Then my cousin chatted with me about his so-called "ordering dishes and knowing people". I combined my experience with workplace dinners and found that it really makes sense, so I would like to share it with you here, hoping to inspire you.
- When ordering food, you only care about your own preferences and don’t care about others
Some people at workplace dinners will "voluntarily" order food, seemingly actively serving everyone, but in fact it is only to satisfy their own selfishness. Because he only cares about his own preferences when ordering food, he can order whatever he likes, and he won't ask other colleagues' opinions at all.
If you interact with people like this on a regular basis, you will definitely find it difficult to get along with them. Such people will only look at problems from their own perspective and will never consider others.
Professionals with high emotional intelligence know that when ordering food at a dinner party, you must ask everyone what kind of cuisine do you usually like? And are there any taboos, which dishes are not allowed to eat.
All in all, for those colleagues who only care about their own preferences and don’t care about others when ordering food, you must be more careful when dealing with them in your future work. Such people are too selfish, and you may be inattentive. Was "pit" by the other party.
- Deliberately order a lot of expensive dishes, but they disappear when you want to check out
Sometimes a colleague might suggest, why don't we go somewhere to have a meal after get off work, so several interested colleagues joined the dinner together.
This kind of dinner party is not about who treats guests, but the "AA system" that everyone knows well, but some people don't understand, or deliberately don't understand this "unspoken rule".
This type of person is usually very hypocritical. When ordering food, they are very face-saving. They will deliberately order the most expensive dishes, as if they are treating guests, and show their own atmosphere.
However, when everyone is full and ready to send someone to checkout, such people usually find various reasons to leave.
So, when you see a person who has this habit when ordering food at a dinner party, you can basically be sure that this person's character and character are average, or even worse, and are not worth your deep friendship.
- Rules for ordering dishes
So how can we show our high emotional intelligence through the behavior of "ordering food"? In fact, this needs to test our observation ability. From time to time, we will attend workplace dinners for some reason. As long as you are careful enough, you will naturally be able to know who likes which cuisine, and have a general impression of this.
When a leader or a colleague asks you to order food in the future, you can choose the appropriate cuisine based on the information you usually record, and attach something like "I remember that you like this cuisine" to let others praise you secretly. Thoughtful, he is a person with high emotional intelligence.
In short, please remember that a seemingly ordinary order can also reflect a person's gentlemanly demeanor and character.