Why are parents so 'vulnerable'? How should teachers meet parents' expectations?

Introduction: Why are parents so "vulnerable"? How should teachers meet parents' expectations?

Today, I saw that the results of the dictation of ancient poems and the photos of students were passed on to the parent group of the 4th grade a few days ago, which caused an uproar and widespread concern in the society. The reason is that some parents asked the teacher to come to the door to apologize, otherwise they would have to sue the Education Bureau. Therefore, the teacher changed from a leave application to a letter of resignation. In the letter, he stated his fears, for fear of mistaking his children, so he had to resign. In the workplace, we feel the same way about the teacher's experience!

This incident has aroused the attention of the general society and has been widely discussed by many practitioners in the education industry, with different positions.

But how many people have thought deeply about why parents would be so angry at the teacher because of a photo of the grades of ancient poems written silently?

1. The loss of the teacher's educational authority

Nowadays, many parents have seen too many successful examples of scolding teachers. Therefore, as long as the child suffers a little grievance, it must be the fault of the teacher, and the teacher must find a way out. Moreover, when the child is wronged, the parents seem to feel that their own face is also damaged, so the teacher is scolding the child, that is, he is scolding himself, and there are no serious consequences for scolding the teacher. such contradictions.

2. Parents’ fragile self-esteem

It is the duty of a teacher to teach and educate people. And there are bound to be a few arrogant kids in every class who don't let the teacher worry. The arrogant kids are often not very willing to study, and they don't like to be obedient. Now they are more publicized because of the lowering of the teacher's authority. If the teacher doesn't care, if something happens to the student, the parents will also find the teacher. If the teacher does not care, the parents feel that their children are being bullied, and their psychology is unbalanced. In fact, the fundamental reason is that parents themselves lack self-confidence, lack confidence in their children, and have no ability to manage their children well, and their children cannot solve setbacks well. The teacher announced the results in the parent group just to let the parents know the status of the child in school and reassure the parents, but some parents say that it hurts the child's self-esteem.

First of all, how many parents show this photo to their children? After reading how many people will hurt children with poor grades? Why are parents afraid that others will know that their children's grades are not good, is it so shameful that the grades are not good? Is there no good way out in the future if the grades are not good? Parents feel that their children's grades are not good enough to be ashamed, so what kind of education will they give their children at home? Is it the teacher who caused the child's poor grades or is it the family's fault? Why can't we discuss this with the teacher? Why threaten to sue the Education Bureau? What do parents want to do? Why should the teacher come to apologize? What do parents want to bring up their children? If you are not satisfied with the teacher, can you take it home and cultivate it in your own way and direction? These are all questions for parents to ponder!

3. Unable to face up to children who are not good enough

We all hope that our children will become dragons, and we all hope that our children are the children of others who are rumored on the Internet, but the reality is that the children of other families seem to be excellent, and the children of our own family do not seem to meet our expectations no matter how you look at them. Does the child have no future if they are not good enough in academic performance? Why do many parents care so much about grades?

This is actually an anxiety about the child's future. Parents directly equate their child's future with their academic performance. It seems that without good grades, there is no future. But the reality is not like this. Good grades will only give us a better learning environment, but how to grow in school depends on the comprehensive quality of students and their ability to adapt to learning. Many people may not have talent in learning book knowledge, but they have done a great job in hands-on ability and work practice. We must learn to discover the strengths of our children, and even if they are not good enough, we should try our best to guide them in the direction of excellence. Failure and setbacks are common in the workplace. Learning to face failures and setbacks is the correct way. Just like in the workplace, we can't always say that the boss criticizes me for not doing well at work. Go home and ask my mother for help and sue the boss, right?

So how should teachers meet parents' expectations?

To be honest, no matter what the teacher does, it is impossible to meet the expectations of all parents. There are dozens of people in a class, and a teacher may have to lead several classes at the same time. Every day, the courses and teaching tasks are full, and it is impossible for the teacher to have The energy to carefully guide each student individually. A person's growth, learning mainly depends on oneself, depends on parents' supervision and teaching by example. Most of the bear children are because of the words and deeds of their parents, and the children imitate their own adults and develop their temperament.

However, it may be slightly useful to recommend a method. After the school starts, spend about a month to understand the specific situation of the students, and then interview the parents of each student to discuss the child's situation and how to cooperate with the parents to better teach the children. Understand the needs of parents, the methods that you will use, try to do what you can, and explain what you can't, and finally make a memo and send it to the parents. Then there will be a basis for managing children, and it can also be used as a means to protect yourself. The rest is to do your own work and do it as normal.

Conclusion: Regarding this matter, the fundamental reason lies in parents. We want teachers to teach our children well, so we should give them more educational authority and educational freedom. If there is something wrong, let’s communicate privately and peacefully first, and don’t sue this or that at every turn. Parents act like this, so who would dare to teach our children? If our children can't face themselves, who will face us when they enter the workplace in the future? Parents can protect their children for a while, but can parents who enter the workplace still protect them well?

Friends, what do you think about this? Comments welcome!