What should I do if my workplace social skills are not good? 3 ways to easily win more friends!
In the workplace, many introverts find it difficult to socialize with colleagues and find it difficult to chat with colleagues. What you are interested in may not be of interest to the other party, and the way you express yourself may not be clearly understood by the other party. Sometimes I am very happy to see other people chatting, and I want to insert a topic, but often because of my own joining, I will kill the topic, making it very embarrassing, and I will become a loner in the workplace. What should I do if I don't have enough social skills in the workplace and I want to make many friends?
Today, I will share 3 tricks with you. As long as you do it well, you will definitely win more friends.
1. Quality listening
Listening is of course not limited to listening, quality listening will make people like to chat with you and feel that you can chat. Everyone has a side that they like to express. If we can guide others to tell their experiences, and we can start from his point of view and achieve a similar experience of empathy, then when their experiences are successful, we will praise them appropriately. When we experience failures, we say that they have done a good job and have successfully overcome difficulties, and when they complain, we can complain with them. Be obedient with your heart, not just with your ears. When listening, my college roommate Xiao Ke will show that if he is interested, he will respond very positively, but if he is not interested enough, he will always have the trademark smile on his face. Laughing, the answer is all words such as oh, um, ah, etc. In action, he is listening, but his thoughts have flown tens of thousands of miles away. Such listening will make the speaker feel perfunctory and will not want to continue talking. go down.
2. Emotional resonance
Everyone’s experience will have joy, sadness, anger, expectation and liking, etc., and the things that make people express their desires the most are often the more intense feelings of stimulation. For example, I went to a certain scenic spot to play today, and I was very happy, then I would like to share my happiness with others, and if the other party has also been there, there will be many details and emotional resonance when chatting. The topic will be fun to talk about. And if it is a vicious event such as a high-altitude parabola, then the other party has seen or experienced it, then express anger together, and condemn those who have no public morality together, which will make both parties in the chat feel like confidants. If we want to do this, we often need to tell our own experience first, then guide the other party to say theirs, and then try to understand them and experience the emotions they are expressing according to their expressions. Use open-ended questions to guide, such as what do you think about this? Why did you think of this way of coping?
3. Guide the other person to speak
In every communication, there is often a theme. For this topic, if the other party is interested, then we can start from the breadth, the topics surrounding the topic, or from the depth, the continuous in-depth analysis of a topic. For example, if the other party is interested in basketball, then talking about NBA, CBA, betting, players, etc. are all topics that can be talked about. For a game, the performance of each player, the performance of the team, the style of the players, etc. These are the depth of a topic. The key is that we need to discover what the chat object is interested in from the topic at the beginning, so as to start from what they are interested in, and let them say all kinds of words that they are interested in.