Why do some people never reject you?

Recently, such anti-chicken soup remarks have been circulating on the Internet:

> > "Not rejecting is sickness, and to put it bluntly is hypocrisy." >

> > "Because you won't refuse, that's why you have a bad life." >

> > "The so-called unwillingness to offend others and fear of hurting friends, in the final analysis, is actually a kind of egoism." >

Shijun really doesn't know when it started, "people who don't refuse other people's requests and are willing to help others for free" have become the target of public criticism, and everyone can criticize them. On the contrary, "rejection" has become a practice that this society should promote.

Doesn't this reverse right and wrong?

Just imagine, if an iron buddy who calls you his brother every day will abandon you because he is afraid that you will not be able to pay back the money. Will you also start playing drums in your heart, wondering if your relationship is worth the 5,000 yuan?

Think about it again, will your parents, who have been worrying about you day and night, leave you alone when they think that you can't repay the same amount of love when you grow up?

If there are only calculations and no emotions left between people, I'm sorry, we are not even salted fish, we are machines.

Refuse strangers being slapped in the face by the truth

Have you ever experienced blushing or even constant remorse for rejecting someone?

I have.

When I was in college, when I was taking the train home, a girl came over and asked, I was dizzy and uncomfortable, could you let me sit for a while. I wanted to stand up, but the people in the front, back, left, and right didn't say a word. Everyone pretended not to hear and continued to read and chat and eat melon seeds. The atmosphere was very awkward, and I didn't feel embarrassed to come forward.

Later, when I went to the toilet, I saw the girl holding a plastic bag, sitting on the ground at the connection of the carriage, surrounded by men who smoked. She may have just vomited and she was pale, and when she looked up at me, I hurried away. When I bumped into that scene, it was like being slapped in the face.

Although she is a stranger who met by chance, and in the eyes of many people, this is just a trivial matter, but every time I think of it, I feel ashamed.

If I had stretched out my hand to her and asked her to lean on the seat for a while, her trip wouldn't have been all indifference, right?

Refuses friends to watch her leave in a hurry

When I first went to work, I rented a house with my friends and floated together. She borrowed money from me every three to five meetings. Today, she borrowed 30 to charge a bus card, and 50 the day after tomorrow to pay for her meals.

I don't earn much, and I spend all my money tightly. Relieving friends has become my biggest headache. If you don't give it, you won't save face, and if you give it, you won't be able to get it back, but it will add up. Besides, it's not that she doesn't have a job, so can't she save some money herself?

Later, I simply rejected her once because I had no money, and she never asked me to borrow money again. It wasn't until after she packed up and left Beijing that I heard another roommate's younger sister say that my friend's internship unit has been yellow and has not been able to find a job.

Because my friends learn from childhood, it is more important to save face, so I have been acting. Every day, she goes out with her backpack in the morning and pretends to go to work, and pretends to come back from work in the evening. In fact, she was either going for an interview to find a job, or just wandering outside.

The roommate is a barber shop girl, and I bumped into it many times. Later, my friends sometimes went to the girl's shop to sit for an afternoon.

The friend's mother knew that she had not been able to find a suitable job, so she urged her to go home quickly and cut off living expenses. My friend had to bite the bullet and ask me to borrow money, hoping to support it for a while. Maybe the turning point appeared soon, but I didn't expect to be rejected.

The truth is always crueler than we imagined. I know that in the future, my heart will be hollowed out by someone, and I feel guilty once I think about it. If she hadn't rejected her friends at the beginning, her path to her dream would not have been so difficult. Even if she gave up in the end, she would have some warmth from me in the future, right?

In fact, the person who should be closest to her has become her cold winter.

Rejecting a loved one gets him into trouble

Two years ago, a relative from my hometown came to Beijing to work. He had an accident on the construction site when he fell off the weak scaffolding and broke five ribs.

My dad called me and told me to go to the hospital, and I went.

I left a phone call to my relatives at the hospital, saying that they can contact me if there is anything. A few days later, my relatives really called and said that they had negotiated compensation with the contractor and asked me to follow him to get the money, but I refused.

That business contact is more like a courtesy, I didn't expect that he would really call. At that time, the work unit was very busy, so I couldn't ask for leave, so I told my relatives on the phone, "It's all right, just go to the bank to get a card and deposit the money."

What I thought could be simple, something went wrong. The relatives in my hometown are too sincere and talkative. On the day of withdrawing the money, the foreman suddenly said that the funds could not be turned over, so I could write an IOU to the relative and promise to pay it within a week.

The relative accepted the IOU, but the foreman signed the wrong name on purpose. When the relative went to the construction site to withdraw money a week later, the contractor called the thief to catch the thief, saying that he had already lost the relative’s cash, and the relative was greedy and asked for money again, and finally sent the relative with a small amount of compensation.

This time it was like being stabbed with a knife, and it has not recovered yet. I believe that many relatives are really in trouble when they ask for your help. If we don't reach out, they'll just sink deeper and deeper.

Your help with your little hands may be an earth-shaking achievement for them. What reason do you have to refuse?

I'd rather be a good person than lose my warmth

So I became a "bad guy."

I will not refuse beggars who ask for money on the road, I know they may be liars, but I am also worried that they are really exhausted; I will not refuse friends who are in trouble, I am very happy to do my best for them; I will not reject my relatives, even if I cannot help them solve their problems, I will try my best to protect and accompany them.

I know that in the eyes of many people, I am a fool, a fool.

But have you ever thought about it, there are too many smart people in this world. They may have strong contacts, and a phone call can get you a favor that you can’t even ask for; they may have smart minds, and they can straighten out all kinds of fast-changing things in minutes; they may have rich resources, No matter what thunder is thrown in the past, it can be leveled.

However, how difficult is it to get smart people to take action?

They may measure, compare, and calculate, and then decide whether to help, how to help, and to what extent.

Those budget-conscious help are just deals. And those people who will never refuse you even if they are too weak to take care of themselves, and even want to help you with a roar of injustice on the road, are not the heroic dream of this fucking life, but the inevitable choice of a warm person.

Maybe a long, long time ago, each of us had the same passion. It's just that one group of people broke the rules, used our sincerity and trust to deceive us, and filled more and more people with suspicion.

But there are still people who choose to believe.

Sometimes we complain about social indifference, so stop killing its residual enthusiasm with your own hands.

May you cherish this enthusiasm, and may you always be a warm person.

So please cherish those who never reject you