Introverts must be stupid and can't speak? These 3 tricks can be learned in one go, and you can easily communicate with strangers
Is it bad to be introverted? It's actually pretty good!
Introverts are more attentive, patient, caring, more tolerant of temperament, etc...
However, in interpersonal communication, introverts really suffer—
When you see a girl you like, don't dare to go up and say hello;
Encountered a meeting to speak, hesitating for a long time to say clearly;
Even if the job is done well, the report is a mess, and the leader is extremely disappointed!
As a result, the girl he liked ran away with others, the opportunity to speak was snatched by colleagues, and of course the opportunity for promotion was missed perfectly.
You worked hard, bought a bunch of books on communication, signed up for a lot of training courses, but still useless, still can't speak, dare not speak.
In fact, communicating with people is not as difficult as you think. Here are 3 simple and practical methods. Once you learn it, you can easily chat with strangers, and you will no longer suffer from stupidity.
Introverts must be stupid and can't speak? These 3 tricks can be learned in one go, and you can easily communicate with strangers
- Imitate the last sentence of the other party
This method is literally: imitating the other person's last sentence.
To make it easier for you to understand, let's take a practical example:
I used to have a boss from Guangzhou, surnamed Huang, who likes to collect stamps very much. It is said that if he takes out his collection, he can exchange it for 5 million.
Once, when I went to his house, he showed me the stamps. The key problem is that I don't understand stamps at all, and I'm so nervous that I don't know how to talk to him.
At this time, he spoke: "Look at how great these stamps are. I have been collecting them for a long time. It is estimated that few people can collect them like this."
It's time for us to talk, how to pick it up? It's very simple, just imitate the last sentence of the leader -
"Yeah, it's estimated that now, almost no one can gather this together, tsk tsk!"
OK, after hearing our conversation, the leader can go on and say, "I think this set of stamps is the most beautiful. I don't know if it's because of the design style or the paper."
Here, finally, here comes the multiple choice question!
At this time, many people will be wise to get an answer, and maybe they will get it right!
The question is, what if you are mistaken? So, is this topic dead, and the scene embarrassing?
In order to avoid this situation, we are still the same, just continue to imitate the last sentence of the leader——
"Yeah, I really can't tell if it's the design or the paper. It's beautiful anyway."
Just like this, if you keep imitating the last sentence of the leader and change the sentence pattern a little, the leader will feel that we agree with his words, then he can continue to say what he said, and the topic can be extended indefinitely.
This method is the most effective for the kind of topics that you don't understand, and you don't need to think about it. You only need to imitate the last sentence of the other party!
Introverts must be stupid and can't speak? These 3 tricks can be learned in one go, and you can easily communicate with strangers
- Learn to praise
Compliments are the greatest tool in communicating with people - because everyone loves to hear compliments, no exceptions!
Compliment is actually very simple. It is to praise others. There are routines. There are three most practical methods:
- Praise depends on the object
For a girl who cares about her appearance, you can praise her as "beautiful"; however, for a talented girl who cares more about her inner spirit, she may not like the term "beautiful", and prefer "beautiful poetry". Literacy" feeling.
When complimenting, you must understand the character and preferences of the object, and prescribe the right medicine.
- Praise be specific
For example: "Wow, your dress is so beautiful!" - this is not specific enough, it sounds like a casual chatter, and the other party does not feel praised.
At this time, we can be more specific, like this - "Wow, your skirt is so beautiful, it suits your skin color, and this little T-shirt complements each other!"
- Praise requires details
For example: "Your speech just now was really good!" - this is not detailed enough, it is too general, and it feels fake.
At this time, we have to capture some details, express sincerity, and say something like this - "Your speech just now was really great, especially the sentence 'You don't lose your youth, you don't lose your honor', it really touched the heart. , I feel the same way.”
Introverts must be stupid and can't speak? These 3 tricks can be learned in one go, and you can easily communicate with strangers
- Ask the icebreaker
The above two methods are suitable for passively interjecting and cooperating, and the following ice-breaking rule of questioning goes a step further, allowing us to master the rhythm of chatting and communicate freely even with strangers.
Thinking back to our usual chats, are we often chatting and chatting without topics, especially when chatting with people we don’t know well, this situation is more common.
The questioning icebreaker method is for this awkward situation - when the chat is about to have nothing to say, we can ask questions, ask the other person what they are good at, what they are interested in, and what they are good teachers for.
For example: "I heard that you are a copywriter, and I just have a question I want to ask you!"
This questioning has two benefits:
Asking the other person's field of expertise gives him the opportunity to "show off", he will never push it away, and he will also have a sense of accomplishment, thus recognizing us on the road.
In the continuous process of this new topic, we can continue to expand, find new questions, create topics constantly, and maintain a pleasant chat rhythm.
Everyone cares about himself the most. When we ask questions about his areas of expertise, his ego will be released, and he will feel respected and cared for, so the chatterbox will be opened-this is the way to ask the icebreaker underlying logic.