Do honest people in the workplace deserve to be bullied? You have to learn to refuse, and your colleagues will respect and value you
"You're an honest person, give me a thumbs up!"
"You are an honest person, and your whole family is an honest person!"
I don't know since when, honest people don't like to hear others praise themselves as honest people.
Because honest people in the workplace are always bullied, and no one wants to be honest. It's just that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is hard to change." The honest and kind-hearted people can't get bad. When someone asks for help, they will still lend a helping hand.
Here's the problem - honest people are taken advantage of and bullied because they don't know how to refuse, and in the end they can only harm themselves.
- If you help others, you will have no time to do your own business, and your own work will not be completed well, delaying your own business.
- When you help others, if there is a problem with the other party's work, even if it is not your problem, you may be implicated or even blamed, which is simply a trick to yourself.
In the workplace, honest people must learn to reject others, so as to win the respect of colleagues, be valued, and have a future. Use these 3 tricks to reject colleagues without offending anyone.
- Retreat to advance, emphasizing time conflict =================================================
In the workplace, very few people can directly reject others, and they should not directly reject them, which will always leave a bad impression.
Therefore, we should be wiser when rejecting a colleague's request, we might as well retreat as an advance, and push the problem to external factors, such as time. like this--
> > "I'm sorry, I really want to help you too! It's just that I still have some work on hand that can't be delayed. It is estimated that it will take two or three hours to complete. If I can wait that long, I will help you later. you, okay?" >
By saying this, not only is there no refusal, but it is also an indication of our willingness to help. It’s just that, due to time reasons, it’s temporarily unavailable, and it takes two or three hours to do it. Generally speaking, 99% of people will not really wait for such a long time, but will choose to solve it on their own or Find someone else.
- Use leadership as a shield ==============================
In the workplace, we are not good at rejecting colleagues, but we can use the power of leadership. Generally speaking, no colleague dares to be arrogant when taking out the leader as a shield. like this--
> > "Unfortunately, I still have work at hand. If I can't finish it in time, the leader will definitely scold me. Otherwise, you can ask the leader for instructions. If he thinks that my work can be pushed back, then I will I'll be free to help you." >
Even if the work at hand is not directly assigned by the leader, it must have something to do with the leader. In theory, it can be said that it was arranged by the leader. Using the leader as a shield, colleagues will definitely not dare to talk to the leader. Because once he goes to the leader and says he needs our help, it is equivalent to saying that he can't handle his own job, which is a sign of incompetence, no one is so stupid!
- Lower the other party's expectations ========================================
If a request cannot be refused and must be shot, we have a last resort, which is to lower the other party's expectations. like this--
> > "Okay, I can help with this. However, I can't guarantee the quality. If something goes wrong, don't blame me. It's your responsibility, OK?" >
No matter whether you help or not, you should take a precautionary shot first, to save yourself from being dumped when you get it, which will outweigh the gain.
If a colleague cares about this matter, after hearing this, he will never dare to hand it over to us. If he messes up, he will be finished. It is better for him to start by himself.
Of course, if he doesn't care about it at all, then maybe we'll have to pick it up. At this time, we should not be too concerned, just do it for a while, and don't be too perfect - this is not irresponsible, but indirectly telling the other party, "This is the effect of my help, if you want good things, you should compare yourself in the future. it is good". If something really goes wrong, it would be better, teach the other party a lesson, and it is estimated that he will not come to us for help so casually in the future.
Sometimes, just because we are too responsible and do everything too well, the other party will come to us again and again for help and bully us.