Chatting with colleagues and leaders will only make you laugh? Once you learn these two tricks, you will find that communication is very simple
Have you ever had such a depressing experience?
Chatting with the leader, you are always at a loss and restless;
Colleagues are chatting hot, but you don't know how to answer, you just smile and nod your head;
When chatting alone with the boss, you will only say "um", "ok", "yes", and you already despise yourself in your heart!
You hate it so much - "Why do you usually have a good chat with your friends, but you can't understand it with your colleagues and leaders?"
The reason is very simple. You are very familiar with your friends and have no interest in it. You can chat as much as you want, and you are not afraid to offend anyone. Colleagues and leaders are different. When it comes to serious work, it is inevitable to be nervous and afraid of saying the wrong thing.
So, how to chat with colleagues and leaders?
Here, there are 2 practical skills, which can be learned as soon as they are learned, making chatting with you as easy as drinking water.
Chatting with colleagues and leaders will only make you laugh? Once you learn these two tricks, you will find that communication is very simple
- Repeat the last sentence the other person said
What is the nature of chatting?
Not eloquent, not tongue-in-cheek, but...
Respond!
This is what we often call "receive".
As long as we can answer the call, the other party will feel comfortable talking.
The easiest way to pick up a conversation is to repeat the last sentence the other person said.
Chatting with colleagues and leaders will only make you laugh? Once you learn these two tricks, you will find that communication is very simple
For example, we went to the leader's house as a guest today, and the leader took out a set of stamps to chat with you.
Who knows about stamps!
So, you are a little panic, like a big enemy.
At this time, the leader spoke first: "Xiao Hu, look at this stamp collection, it's really great."
You definitely don't know where this set of stamp sticks is, and you habitually want to smile and nod.
However, if you react like this, the leader will feel that he is playing the piano to the cow, and he will lose interest all of a sudden.
At this point, we can repeat the last sentence of each other's words: "Yeah, leader, this stamp collection is really good, tsk tsk!"
After your words, the leader can continue the topic: "I have collected this set of stamps for a long time. It is estimated that few people can collect such a collection now."
what do you say?
It's very simple, continue to repeat the last sentence of the leader, give a thumbs up and say, "Indeed, it is really difficult to collect so many."
The leader came again: "I just think this set of stamps is particularly beautiful. I don't know if it is because of the paper or the style of the design."
It's over, it's a multiple choice question!
So, someone decided to give an answer boldly, in case they got it right, how awesome!
The question is, what if you are wrong, the leader can't scold you half to death in your heart?
At this time, it is still the same, repeating the last sentence of the leader: "Yes, it is really difficult to say whether the paper is good or the design level is high!"
Through this example, you can clearly see that by using the technique of "repeating the last sentence of the other party", we have been answering the conversation perfectly, and we have also naturally guided the leader to continue to talk, even making him feel that we can talk to us. Pretty happy, isn't it?
Of course, we can't repeat what the other person said word for word, but we need to change the sentence a little bit, so as not to be parroted and make the leader feel uncomfortable.
Chatting with colleagues and leaders will only make you laugh? Once you learn these two tricks, you will find that communication is very simple
- Flexibly imitate each other's body movements
Chat, not just talking, but also body language.
Sometimes, when we chat alone with our leaders, we will always fidget and don’t know where to put our hands and feet, which is very embarrassing.
In fact, the simplest technique is to flexibly imitate each other's body movements.
For example, if a leader crosses his arms and crosses his chest, of course, you can’t also cross his chest, but you can change it flexibly—with your hands crossed in front of your chest.
For example, if the leader leans back on the back of the chair, you can sit back a little and put your hand on the side of the chair.
For example, if the leader has Erlang's legs crossed, you can try to cross his legs together.
As long as the shape is similar, it does not have to be exactly the same, it must be flexible. Otherwise, if you lead whatever action you do, it becomes a silent mockery, isn't it?
Don't feel that this kind of imitation is useless - countless facts have proved that when two people act alike, they will subconsciously think that the other is the same, and will recognize each other unconsciously.
Chatting with colleagues and leaders will only make you laugh? Once you learn these two tricks, you will find that communication is very simple
The two tips above are really easy, aren't they?
You can try it with the leader now, to ensure that you will not be overwhelmed again.
Communication is really not difficult; speaking is actually the easiest. Don't let this ability that everyone has to hold you down, you can, my friend!