Are people still not doing well when they reach 30? You must have these 3 abilities, the sooner you know the better
A very poignant question -
It's 30, why are you still not doing well?
no chance? No connections? Not a good father? No luck? Not that life?
Then, please look at the classmates or friends around you. I can guarantee that there must be someone who is less likely, less connected, less fortunate, and worse than you, but who is much better than you.
External factors like these are always just the environment and may affect your life, but they are not the main cause.
It is these three very simple abilities that really decide whether you do well or not. If you can improve these three abilities, it may be difficult for you to become a big man like Jack Ma, but you will definitely be much more comfortable than you are now.
Are people still not doing well when they reach 30? You must have these 3 abilities, the sooner you know the better
- The ability to abstain from short-term pleasure
Short-term pleasures are those things that make you happy for an instant, but don't help you grow.
Most people are immersed in short-term pleasures most of the time and cannot extricate themselves, such as playing a certain music, chasing dramas, reading Shuangwen novels, playing games, smoking and drinking, etc.
Take a certain sound for example, you brushed one and laughed happily, but the pleasure came and went quickly. In order to make this kind of pleasure continue, you can only continue to swipe down, watching one video after another, and one swipe is an hour or two or even half a day. After you turn off a certain tone, you will look back, and you will be sad to find that you have got nothing, and you have wasted a lot of time - these are your youth.
This short-term pleasure is the root cause for most people to play with themselves. If you want to change yourself and live a better life, you have to get rid of this short-term pleasure.
Except for the difficulty of quitting smoking and drinking, other things are very easy, the only thing you have to do is to delete the APP on your mobile phone, this is not difficult. Even if you can't bear to download it again one day, you only need to delete it after playing it that day. This is the case every time, every time you download and delete it, and gradually you become irritable, you will hate this action in your heart, and you will never want to download it again.
Are people still not doing well when they reach 30? You must have these 3 abilities, the sooner you know the better
- The ability to be cheeky
Today's people's skin is really getting thinner and thinner, like paper. I feel embarrassed to do this, and I feel ashamed to do that, so the tragic ending appeared——
The girl you like is embarrassed to chase, and becomes someone else’s bedside; the job you love is embarrassed to fight for, and becomes a promotion opportunity for others; the opportunity to make money is too embarrassing to do it, and you comfort yourself while watching others earn money. I'm just too lazy to do it.”…
Think about it, how many opportunities you have missed because you are not thick-skinned enough, and if you had seized one or two of them, you would never be as miserable as you are now, right?
Young people in their teens and twenties can understand that they are thin-skinned. After all, they are still young and the burden of "idol" is too heavy. It's just that, at the age of 30, it's a bit immature to have such a good face.
If you still can't put your face down, I suggest you have a good chat with your elders over 50 and ask them if they will be tied down because of face. Trust me, they will definitely advise you to put your face down because they know that your life and your family are more important than your face.
Think about it, are you going to continue to save face and impoverish your poor daughter-in-law and children, or put down your face to give your family a better life?
Are people still not doing well when they reach 30? You must have these 3 abilities, the sooner you know the better
- The ability to reject others
In life and work, do you dare to reject others?
Yes, I don't know since when, rejecting others as a freewheeling thing has turned into a thing that requires great courage to complete, just like bungee jumping.
In the eyes of many people, rejecting others is a very embarrassing thing, and it is easy to offend people. For the sake of the harmony of life, they chose not to refuse, but they did not expect that the result would be that life would be more discordant——
When someone borrows money, you don’t refuse, but when you repay the debt, you don’t get the money back, so that you can only aggrieve yourself and your wife and children; when someone asks you for help at work, if you don’t refuse, you have to be at the same time If you do more things, your work will definitely not work well, and you may miss promotions and raises because of this...
At times like this, many people will comfort themselves like this: "I am helping others, and helping others is a virtue!"
If you are happy, then of course I can admit that you are helping others. But the truth is, you're very unhappy, you know you should say no, and you even regret not saying no -- then it's not helping others, it's self-inflicted.
From now on, please learn to reject others without worrying about embarrassment or offending people, because as long as you are valuable, or your future is valuable, those who are rejected by you will still come to you shamelessly. And only if you learn to say no to others, you have the time and energy to do things that improve your self-worth, don't you?
Write at the end:
A person wants to change, wants to succeed, many abilities can help you. However, these 3 abilities are the most basic, and you don't need to learn a lot to do it, you just never realize how important they are.