'Three nos' at dinner! Applicable both in the workplace and in life, it's time to test personality and emotional intelligence
Eating is originally a very happy thing, but someone can turn a beautiful meal into a painful memory, how unfortunate it is.
I attended a dinner party a few days ago, a group of friends, and went there out of face.
It was pretty good at the beginning, the atmosphere was harmonious, and there was a lot of chat and laughter, until the buddy whose name I still don't know appeared.
That buddy is said to be a friend of my friend's friend's friend. The relationship is estimated to date back to the pre-Qin period, but the visitor is a guest, and you can sit there casually.
This guy not only sits casually, but also behaves casually. The first sentence after saying hello is a dirty joke. This kind of big move to start the game directly shocked everyone - I forgot to mention that there were three girls at the dinner table.
Then the dude started toasting, going round and round, very vigorous, reminding me of when my alcoholic dad was dragging a table of people drinking when I was a kid. About half an hour later, this guy was drunk, in a mess, and he was talking with a big tongue, but the more he talked, the more excited he was, the more outrageous he was, and he also invited us to have time to sit on his private jet. I had to say that I was airsick, and by the way, I added a word of seasickness, in case he drove the private yacht to the door of this hotel again.
As the saying goes, "Charity at the dinner table" is true. Whether it is in daily life or in the workplace, there are three things you must not do at the dinner table, otherwise, you will really lose your share and will only delay things.
"Three nos" at dinner! Applicable both in the workplace and in life, it's time to test personality and emotional intelligence
- Don't drink more than one-third of your own
Some people say, don't get drunk when you drink, it's easy to delay things.
But I have to say, drink up to one-third of your own, not more.
Because, in some rounds, you can't push the wine, so it's good to taste it and control it to one-third of your own amount. At this time, your reason is still there, your rationality is still there, you know what you should do, you know what you should say, and your brain has not been controlled by alcohol.
However, if you continue to drink to about half of the amount, you will find that your words have increased unconsciously, and it seems that you have a lot to say, as if you can't control it. At this point, you're actually on the verge of making a mistake, and you don't need to wait to get completely drunk. You don't even realize you're making a mistake, let alone control your mind and mouth.
So, one-third of the amount is enough. You can still maintain your demeanor and politeness, and you can still take care of others and maintain yourself. This is a good state.
"Three nos" at dinner! Applicable both in the workplace and in life, it's time to test personality and emotional intelligence
- Don't chat too "dirty"
Nowadays, people like to "drive" more and more. It seems that they can't show their humor and talent without being a little bit yellow when chatting.
But "driving" isn't really humorous, and dirty jokes aren't a sign of eloquence. To put it nicely, this is called trembling; to put it badly, this is pure double B.
Adult dinners are not just dinner parties, but other plans - either to connect feelings, or to meet people, or to thank someone, or to expand circles...
This kind of occasion, unlike the mahjong table and your own bedroom, is really not suitable for "dirty" pornographic jokes. If there are girls present, you definitely can't "drive"; but if it's all men, it doesn't mean you can "drive", it will only show your brevity and rudeness.
Don't tell me your friends like to hear that kind of topic, if that's the case, I suggest you switch friends!
"Three nos" at dinner! Applicable both in the workplace and in life, it's time to test personality and emotional intelligence
- Don’t make your own decisions when ordering
Of course, ordering food for dinner is a very common thing.
However, because it is so common, many people ignore it.
When ordering, whether you are the host or the guest, don't make your own decisions.
If you are the host, hand the menu to the guest as soon as possible; if you are the guest, when the host hands over the menu, push the menu back as soon as possible. No matter how free and easy you are, no matter how forthright your friends are, we still have to be polite - this is not pretense, this is respect and etiquette.
Finally, if you have to order, then instead of ordering it yourself, first ask others if they have any taboos, likes or dislikes, and then you order a symbolic order or two, and then Give the menu to the next person, so that the rain and dew are covered.
Write at the end:
Indeed, it's the little things! However, it is the little things that determine success or failure, and it is the details that make character.