Never let your relatives and friends work beside you! There are three reasons, if you don't listen, you will suffer a big loss
In the workplace, the starting point of having a relationship and not having a relationship is different, so many people are willing to trust relationships, look for relationships, and look for such shortcuts. Many people will ask, relatives, friends, and classmates often let themselves take him, and ask if they can help find a job in their own company. Faced with this kind of thing, I advise everyone that it is best to refuse. In the workplace, don't let your relatives, friends and classmates work beside you. There are three reasons.
1. Change of identity
You brought your classmates and friends over. Are you a professional or a relative? From the beginning, this identity will change rapidly. When you meet, you are a superior and a superior. When he calls you a brother, where is the boundary?
This boundary is very blurred. He said brother, you said hello to the boss, he was very disgusted, I was talking with you about feelings, you actually called me a job, refused me a thousand miles away, do you have any opinion on me? If one day you call him a relative, uncle or brother, and he says you should pay attention to the occasion, then you feel uncomfortable, so the identity is very vague, it changes with the scene, with the status, with the interests Change.
For example, when the leader is arranging welfare benefits and dealing fairly, you have to talk to him about relatives, and he is very upset when he is performing his duties. When I say a few words to you, you will feel that we are related, and we can't talk about it in private. I don't think I'm fine, so I'll be late for a while? Should I say a few more words? . . . If you criticize him, take it into consideration. If he accepts criticism, he feels uncomfortable.
2. Privacy
Two people's long-term relationship, after going for so long, who has no privacy, who has no scandal, who has never lied, at this time he thinks it doesn't matter, it's just a joke, this guy is chasing girls in college, chasing after A few failed, the speaker thinks it's nothing, but the listener is interested. For example, he is chasing a girl in the company. If you say something embarrassing to him in the company, he will feel unhappy. You make him lose face in front of the female colleague he likes. . The two of you have so many interactions that you won't know which of his privacy has been touched.
We used to joke about a classmate who was drinking. This guy wrote a love letter to a girl when he was in junior high school. What was the girl's name, we thought it was nothing more than 20 years ago. After we went back, the two almost got divorced because it was us. The classmate I mentioned, they took a group photo. Just a few days later, her wife suspected her. We didn't know that they were still in touch after more than 20 years. We just got in touch, and we just talked about it after drinking. The probability of being struck by lightning is low, but in fact, it happens. Therefore, in the workplace, you can’t talk too much. If you talk too much, it’s easy to infringe on other people’s privacy, and you don’t even know it.
- Natural faction
Because you and him are relatives and friends, and everyone gathers together according to their emotional relationship. After entering the workplace, you and him have a natural emotional relationship. After everyone enters the workplace, there will be great disputes over interests. When the time comes, on the one hand it is his own interests, on the other hand, it is his feelings. How do you think he will choose?
Some people say that I will choose feelings, which is wrong. Of course, it's interests, no one chooses feelings. In the workplace, except for the relationship between brother, father, cousin, and cousin, it is a relationship that can't be fought. You talk about the relationship between classmates, here is the interest. I kill him and I can be promoted. We are classmates. When we have no other interests, we are classmates. When there are other interests, what are classmates? What is the cousin? It's hard to say, feelings will be worthless at that time, because you are not very close by blood, and these relatives just have to show that I am cruel to you, and I am strict with you, in order to draw a clear line.
So, don't let your relatives and classmates come to work with you. If you can't handle the above three relationships well, it's best not to work with relatives and friends.