My colleague said these three words to you, either to trick you or to use you as a gunman. If you take it seriously, you are doomed to suffer.

In the workplace, the relationship between colleagues is simple and complicated, and many people suffer losses on their colleagues. Some colleagues can become friends, and if you use them well, they can help you in your work and can provide you with a lot of help. And some colleagues look good on the surface, but in fact he is your potential enemy, or he regards you as a potential enemy early on, but you don't know it. Therefore, for a colleague, the intention to harm others is not necessary, but the intention to guard against others is indispensable. Especially when a colleague said these three words to you, he is either harassing you or using you as a gunner. If you take it seriously, you are destined to suffer.

1. Tell you that it is long overdue for a promotion based on your ability

There is a saying in the ancients that "capacity can be an official", which means that a person who is capable should be an official. In fact, this is not the case. Everyone has overlooked a problem. There are so many people who have the ability and ability, but the space is limited. They are all pits for each radish. We can't dig up the original radish and plant you.

If a colleague tells you that your ability is strong, and what you are currently getting does not match your ability, this is not complimenting you, nor is it scolding you, it is arousing your resentment, if you take it seriously, resign and find a new job A company that can give a position that matches its own ability, the person who said this will laugh, and the successful one lacks a strong competitor. A capable opponent leaves the company, which reduces the threat and increases the opportunity for him.

2. Tell you that the leader wants to promote you

The company has carried out post adjustment and needs to promote a group of new people. It is a rare opportunity. In order to win this opportunity, everyone actively behaves and hopes to get extra points in the minds of the leaders. Xiao Q is the one who has a relatively large opportunity in the department. My colleague, Xiao K, was sitting next to Xiao Q during lunch, and secretly said to Xiao Q, I just heard from the leaders that you are the only one who has been promoted, congratulations, don't get promoted. Forget bro. When Xiao Q heard it, he was very happy and patted his chest, it's no problem for him to be a brother. In the next job, Xiao Q thought that promotion was in sight, and he was gone. For many jobs, he began to assign other colleagues to do it. Before he became a leader, he began to pretend to be a leader. These leaders saw it in their eyes. In the end, Xiao Q was not promoted, but Xiao K was promoted by the leaders.

In the workplace, there is a signal for leaders to promote, and they believe it by hearsay. Do you think it is stupid. Xiao Q also thought that it was Xiao K who came to hug his thigh in advance, how could it be possible.

3. Tell you that so-and-so is in the leadership and speak ill of you

Before getting off work, Sister Wang told Xiaolin that she saw Xiao Wang speak ill of you at the leader's place just now, saying that it was your responsibility that the work was not done well last time, and you have to be careful. Xiao Wang is a typical workplace villain. He likes to tease his colleagues in front of the leader the most. When he makes small reports to the leader, his colleagues are very dissatisfied with him. Xiao Lin has a bad temper and can't stand others talking ill of him behind his back. The two of them had a big fight in front of Xiao Wang. If it wasn't for his colleagues, they almost got into a fight. Later, the leaders punished the two respectively.

If a colleague tells you that someone is saying bad things about you, don't get excited first, calm down, if it's true, first see if the bad words really have an actual impact on you, and then find a way to solve it, and anger is the solution No problem. If it is fake, it is because your colleagues are sowing discord and using you as a gunman, you should be more careful.

Everyone should understand that whoever says right or wrong must be right or wrong. No one will come to fight for you for no reason. Many times, you don’t know the real purpose behind what they say, whether they want to trick you or use you as a gunman. , so the above 3 sentences, just listen to it, it is doomed to suffer.