Don't treat colleagues as friends! If you don't change your misconceptions, you will never be good at the workplace
Many people do not get along well in the workplace. It is not a problem of ability, but more of a cognitive error. Many people have their own thinking inertia in their minds, and they like to compare unfamiliar things with their familiar things. Anyone with social experience knows that as long as there are subtle differences in many things, a crack is not the same, it will lead to collapse. And many people who do not get along well in the workplace, first of all, have mistakes in their cognition of the organization, which leads to a series of mistakes in the back of the workplace.
It can be said that from childhood to adulthood, we are all in an organization. Marx said that people are the sum of all social relations. Whether you are at home, school, or anywhere, this is a group of organizations, and different places have different Organizations, different organizations have different styles, but many people are confused about this.
Many people who are just entering the workplace will make this mistake, calling everyone a teacher. Who is your teacher, have you paid? They feel that the older ones should tolerate you and have an obligation to teach you. Why do people want to teach you for free? There is no difference between calling you a teacher and calling a bullshit. It is just a title. In fact, everyone is not an equal and cooperative relationship at all.
The school brings this kind of thinking to the workplace for everyone, forming a culture of equality. It is often said in school, I love my teacher, I love the truth more, the truth is the first, you can debate with the teacher, you can debate with the students, and encourage them to do so. When you go to society, you will find that who is arguing with you, what qualifications do you have to debate, and what if you are right? This society is not based on right or wrong, but based on power. Power is right, but power fiction is wrong. There is no truth. There is no truth in social science, but there is in science.
In school, no one has a common interest. Usually, everyone gets a score, and each has their own business, but you are not in the workplace. Colleagues are not classmates. Some colleagues have borrowed money, some colleagues ask you to help, and classmates have no interest. , it’s okay to borrow some living expenses, but after entering the workplace, these people are not fixed. If you see him today, he will leave tomorrow; today is your colleague, and tomorrow is your leader; today is you Dude, tomorrow you are his leader, you can't control them.
If you treat your colleagues around you as an equal, this error is quite big. If the two of you are on the same level, there is a position. Which of the two of you is going to go, you go up or he goes up. Will he be jealous if you go up? Will it harass you before you get on? Will it piss you off? Will he finally come up with your privacy? He is in power, you know that he has so much privacy, can he accommodate you? Will he still call you brother? You think he is an official, and you want to be happy, then you are wrong. The first thing he will deal with is you, because he wants to establish his own authority and cut off his own past. The same is true for you. You suddenly become a leader, face to face. For the person before, he still calls you a brother, where is your authority? You control him, he refuses to obey, what should you do? Therefore, in society, especially in the workplace, everyone's relationship is changing, and it is extremely changing, and everyone is a potential conflict. So don't make friends at work.
A lot of people say it's not lonely? An adult has to have his own hobbies, what is loneliness, nothing to do at home to grow flowers, grow grass, and practice calligraphy, so you rarely go out to a middle-aged person to socialize deeply, treat this person as a friend, and treat that person as a friend , that is a game played by children. When you are really middle-aged, you will have no friends at all. Everyone is a partner. If it is beneficial, they will be together, and if it is not beneficial, they will part ways. Therefore, the most common in the workplace is Everyone's relationship changed drastically, and they left soon. Today is your leader, and tomorrow people will not know where they are.
Don't think of the workplace as a school, thinking that everyone has an equal identity, everyone is not divided into poor and lowly, and the workplace is a place where interests are exchanged. Treat your colleagues as classmates, make friends with colleagues, and treat your superiors as teachers. If you don’t change your misunderstanding, you will never be able to make a good career in the workplace.