Being tactful is a key word for professionals. The longer you stay in the workplace and society, the more you understand the importance of being tactful. The workplace is not pure or pure. A pure society is an ideal that people yearn for, but all the things that are longed for are actually non-existent, and the things that exist are not pursued by people. A mature workplace person must learn to actively adapt to the cruel rules of the workplace and avoid passively accepting blows from others. We don't have much time to waste in our lives, we should take the initiative to learn the rules instead of learning after hitting a wall. There are four principles of being tactful that need everyone's attention.

1. No enmity, no enemy ======================

Whether it is active or passive revenge in the workplace, it should be avoided.

1. Don't do anything, leave a way for yourself.

What if others find fault with you?

There are three situations. First, you offend the interests of others. Second, you are too high-profile and affect the potential interests of the other party. Third, you are on the side of his enemy. When someone interacts with you, we need to consider the motivation behind his every move.

In the workplace, don't take the initiative to take responsibility at any time. Leaders take responsibility in order to make their subordinates follow them. When ordinary employees take responsibility, they are taking the blame for everyone, and they can only become the abandoned son of the leader.

2. Don't offend people

Don't do black work. Anything that offends people will be used as a gun. If there is a situation where you have to offend someone, explain to them that you have to. If it's an opponent, kill him with precision

Emperor Wudi of the Han Dynasty was killed because Jiang Chong had offended the prince and made a grudge against the prince, so he had to overthrow the prince so that he could have a way back. Wei Wan offended Emperor Jing, who was still the crown prince, but he was not attacked and retaliated because Emperor Jing was more generous and enlightened than Prince Rui.

3. Focus on leadership

Your superiors in the workplace are yours to rely on. The relationship between colleagues belongs to the ladder type, either you step on him to go up or he steps on you to go up.

Second, don't be sincere

In the workplace, the less people know about you, the better.

We don't know who is taking advantage of us in the workplace. Men like silly and sweet women, because such women are not a threat to men.

Generally your sincerity doesn't benefit your friends.

Do not be sincere in three aspects:

1. You can't just show your true self to others. In the workplace, we are frank with our leaders and fool our subordinates.

2. Don’t reject others decisively, you can respond in a push-pull way to avoid offending people because of rejection. Learn to excuse yourself and give hope to those who ask for help.

3. Your words should be packaged. Say good things and compliments instead of the bare truth

4. Don't make a high profile ============================

Being a low-key person and doing things in a high-profile way is actually a misunderstanding. Doing things in a high-profile way will make people think that you are greedy for merit and will be envied. The really good people will only find ways to get into the leader's field of vision instead of making enemies everywhere.

Not high-profile is divided into three aspects:

1. Low profile, do not compete with others for things that do not involve interests

2. Small kindness and small benefits are shared with everyone, good at sharing with everyone rather than monopolizing

3, to learn to please others. It is convenient to reduce the hostility of others.

The more villain, the more you want to please her, a little grace or a few nice words can get the villain.

Fourth, the principle of no

Don't stick to your own principles too much, and know how to be flexible. The core principle of mixed workplace is not to make enemies and reduce your own obstacles.

There are three points of no principle:

1. It is our workplace principle to insist on safeguarding the private interests of leaders, even if it hurts colleagues and hurts the company.

There are two types of leadership interests: (1) the interests of affairs, (2) the interests of the leader himself. To maintain the private interests of the leader, the leader will give you public power.

2. Be unprincipled to your opponent.

Fight against opponents by any means, leaving a way for yourself and not for the enemy.

3. No principle in dealing with interpersonal relationships

The principle of interpersonal relationships is hello to everyone.

Twelve words: Don't make enemies, don't be sincere, don't be high-profile, don't be principled, make fewer enemies and let others know about you, and you won't have too many obstacles in the workplace .