You must see clearly the four 'illusions' in the workplace and avoid 'stepping on the pit'

When you are in a work unit, if you are confused by the friendly atmosphere on the surface, you will take it for granted that you will "take your heart and your lungs" to everyone, and treat it as a friend or even a relative.

Compared with learning the necessary skills, you have to learn to see through these "illusions" and avoid "digging holes" by yourself.

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The first illusion: After quarreling with colleagues, you can make up.

Most of the harmony in the workplace is fake. Each other is a competitor, everyone wants to step on the shoulders of others, to a higher level, anger, grudge is also a normal phenomenon.

Especially when you meet a co-worker or leader who has a low level of competence and is very jealous, they like to be picky. Not only are you being "used" openly or secretly, you are not involved in credit or hard work, but if there is any mistake, you will be regarded as a "bearer", and all the stigma and "dirty water" will be poured on you.

As the saying goes: "The rabbit is in a hurry and bites people." If a person has been bullied for too long, even if he is honest, there will be times when he will break out. But honest people are the most timid and afraid of things. Once they slap their leaders, even if they take care of themselves, they will be frightened for a long time, for fear that colleagues or leaders will double "revenge".

Under the influence of this kind of uneasy mood, honest people often decide to take the initiative to "show favor" in order to ease the embarrassment.

As everyone knows, this "not tough" approach will only continue to fuel the "arrogant" arrogance of those people. Even if they are polite to you on the surface, you can clearly feel that this is "face and heart disagreement", and they will definitely "spare no effort" to target you.

In this regard, the hard way is to tear your face when you tear your face, and no longer humble yourself and make compromises. Have a good relationship with others around you, even if one person says hello, it proves that you have merit in being a human being.

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The second illusion: as long as you work hard, others will see it in your heart.

As the saying goes: "The mantis catches the cicada and the oriole is behind". You never know, you who will only work hard will already be the "prey" in the eyes of many people. Because you are down-to-earth, never haggling, and you can complete tasks on time and with high quality, it is simply too reassuring.

There are several such people in a unit, no matter how difficult it is, the leader will not worry about it. But the problem is that there are still a lot of people who just don't work, just waiting to use your achievements to invite credits and rewards.

These people are usually very strong, and they can find hundreds or thousands of reasons to refuse the tasks assigned by the leaders, or they can push the buck and procrastinate, and they screw things up. In the face of such employees, the leaders simply stopped calling them to do things in order to save trouble.

Although the leader is like a mirror in his heart, he also knows that he cannot offend people casually. Therefore, when people are chasing him for all kinds of flattery and taking the opportunity to brag about himself, he cannot show his face to expose this lie, and more often , will push the boat along the river, and give it a lot of praise.

That's why, those who only bury their heads in hard work only get the job, but don't get a promotion or salary increase. Because they have never been good at expressing merit. In the workplace, people who can really go far are not only good at doing things, but also good at self-promotion and self-promotion, so that their work performance and good reputation can be seen and heard by everyone.

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The third illusion: caring about face, making a swollen face as a fat man.

People in the workplace, the first thing to understand is that you are not who you are, you are working for wages. Whether it is a boss, a colleague of the same level, or a subordinate, everyone just has a different division of labor, and there is no "affiliation".

Therefore, there is no need for you to please anyone at all. Doing your job well is doing your due diligence.

But the good face is completely different.

You spend a lot of time and energy, spare no effort to help when others ask you for help, and in the end, others habitually ask you to do everything for you, and you can't bear to refuse.

You maintain a high stance of "don't worry about me when you are here", and you are willing to "take over the shoulders" of things that offend others and things that no one wants to do.

He said "it's okay", but his heart was full of bitterness. But in order to save face, he still wronged himself again and again in order to get everyone's approval.

In fact, these extra payments are like gifts that are bundled in shopping malls. Many people don’t even look at them and throw them away when they get home.

In the same way, the more face you are, the more others will seize your weakness and make the most of it. As long as those "shameless" people, it doesn't matter what they say or do.

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Fourth Illusion: " I have helped others, and others will surely help me. "

Gratitude is not for everyone.

You only have a clear conscience when you "return the favor" to others, but don't expect others to be like you: you will be rewarded for your kindness.

In the workplace, there are many such villains. Once they are in trouble, they treat everyone as a "savior" and ask others for help. Once out of the predicament, he turned his face and refused to recognize anyone.

For example, borrowing money, even if you take a notebook and record it in a book at that time, if you have money, you will pay it back immediately. But if you are really rich, you will hold your money bag tightly, and you can delay it for as long as you can, or even rely on it to pay it back.

People's minds are unpredictable, probably because what you think is right, they take it as a show.

It's just that such "dishonest" people will always reveal their true colors in various details. You have only suffered a loss once, and you will have a long memory, and you must not make the same mistake next time.

Your kindness should be given to the same kind of people, and the help you can give can only be given to those who have truly helped you.

Interpersonal relationships in the workplace are too delicate and complex.

If you are not careful, it is a trap, a "trap". When you can clear the fog and deal with it comfortably, you will find that you have come a long, long way.