When a person reaches middle age, stop being a "good old man". Your complacency cannot be exchanged for the sincere respect of others and the same sincerity.

At work, when you become the irreplaceable person, you should stop looking at other people's faces. In life, please yourself more, and live a simple and ordinary life into a poetic appearance. When you are intoxicated with it, others will be envious.

01

Cover your purse and don't borrow money lightly.

No one's money comes from the wind. When people reach middle age, they can better understand the hardships and difficulties of making money.

How many people, how many years, are just blindly guarding a salary to live, and every expense is listed clearly, once there is a small fluctuation in life, the overspending part will become arrears, and I don’t know when it will be repaid. .

Under the pressure of life, some people finally started to do "side jobs", maybe it was a part-time food delivery, maybe it was a rental business in their spare time, or more, they used their professional expertise to find some similar jobs and bring them home. Dry.

Whether it is through or not is difficult. Perhaps from the time when I started doing a "side business", I realized more deeply that making money is too difficult. To have someone "place an order", complete the "order" with high quality, and also turn customers into "returning customers" and win the understanding and trust of strangers, is far more important than complaining about the poor working environment, long hours, and delicate and complicated relationships with colleagues. Much harder.

Making money is not easy, but spending money is always quick. Sometimes, in order to satisfy the vanity of his "good man", he also lends his hard-earned money generously and easily, without asking for IOUs or setting a repayment date. Because most people who can speak like they borrow money have a good relationship and a deep friendship.

However, in the face of money, human nature can't stand the test the most. Some people are really difficult, and they can't pay for a while, and some people just think that you are a good old man, easy to talk, no temper, and you won't pay back the money. In the end, the people who borrowed the money were humble, and the people who were supposed to pay back the money were arrogant.

02

Keep your time and reduce ineffective social interaction.

When people reach middle age, they feel more and more that time is the most precious.

If you want to devote yourself to research work, you need time; if you want to be with your children quietly, you need time; if you want to exercise, you need time; if you want to regain your hobbies, it takes time...

But time seems to pass faster than before. Often, the day's planning has just begun, and it is already time to get off work. Before he had time to say a word to the child, he was about to do his homework; after a lot of housework, he was so tired that he just wanted to lie down, and the exercise could only be put aside.

I really hope that time can pass a little slower, and then a little slower, so that I can accomplish everything I want to accomplish.

This idiot's dream-like wish is not impossible. A very effective way is to reduce useless social interaction. For example, don’t mix up the small talk between colleagues. Except for the necessary communication at work, any dinner or party is irrelevant. We have been with each other for many years, and we already know each other well. As long as we do our job well, no one will help you.

For example, the classmates and friends who don’t usually contact you, but suddenly call you at the party, there is no need to go to the party. Some feelings can only accompany us for a ride. Well, after all, everyone has their own way to go.

As for work, there is no need to spend too much time on socializing, which is a must. They have clearly expressed their intentions and sincerity to each other. People with similar interests will quickly reach cooperation intentions; people who are not on the same frequency, Anything more is nonsense.

When you reduce those social interactions that are very troublesome and laborious but useless, you will feel that your ears are a lot cleaner, and those irrelevant people and things are finally cleaned up. The time saved is completely It's awesome to own it to myself.

03

Take care of your enthusiasm and don't act like a "good guy".

When people reach middle age, some people always think that they have experienced a lot and see through life, and they have the urge to "be a good teacher". I always hope to pass on some experience as a "people who have come here".

In fact, everyone has their own growth path, and your experience and lessons are only suitable for guiding yourself. For others, it is very likely to become a burden.

For example, there is a new colleague in the unit who happens to take over your job. You have a lot of things to tell the other person, especially which "pits" are the easiest to step on, which things have "shortcuts" to take, and which problems remain. There are "easy ways", you can talk to yourself and others will be embarrassed to not listen carefully.

But in fact, young people have their own ideas and their own practices. Your set, in their opinion, is the "past tense", which is already outdated. And what you think of as experience, they will not regard it as a kind of prompt and guide. They would rather make mistakes and try it once before going back and evaluating how you did it.

When you are middle-aged, pack up your enthusiasm. Especially in the process of getting along with colleagues, you only need to do your job well, and when others ask for you, be frank and that's all.

As for other things, there is really no need to teach them "hands-on". Your kindness will inevitably be regarded as "ulterior motives". Once something goes wrong, others will rely on you, and you will not be able to come down on stage.

In middle age, being yourself is the most important thing.

Save time and energy, love what I love, do what I do, and life will get better and better!

The days will get more and more exciting.