When people reach middle age, they must learn to be 'silly' in these three things

Some people say: "It's also a matter of talent to pretend to be a fool."

When a person reaches middle age, he has experienced a lot along the way, and finally understands that "everything in the world is knowledgeable, and people are skilled in writing." Get peace of mind.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to be "silly" in these three things

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In the face of intrigue in the workplace, we must know how to "play stupid".

After working hard in the workplace for many years, I have a profound insight: "playing stupid" is a necessary skill.

At the beginning, when I just joined the job, I didn't know the situation, I just used my enthusiasm and self-righteous "knowledge" to "voice" in a high-profile, even maverick, wanting to gain attention and get a quick promotion and salary increase. . This seemingly "motivated" behavior, if you don't know how to play stupid, will soon become a trap dug for yourself by others.

Whether it is a unit or a company, the leaders and colleagues are all in harmony on the surface, with division of labor, cooperation and concerted efforts. However, an unseen battle of interests also often follows.

Some people just talk and don't do it, but they will please the leaders the most; Different value orientations naturally form different interest factions. For their own interests, they often compete secretly when assigning work tasks.

If a person regards himself as the smartest person, showing his sharp edge and aggressiveness everywhere, it is equivalent to "declaring war" with everyone. The "silent" way squeezes you out fiercely. In the end, which camp will target you, making you a "punching bag" and a "scapegoat."

Therefore, when wandering in the workplace, in addition to having excellent professional skills, it is also necessary to "pretend to be confused" in the delicate and complex interpersonal communication. The more you understand the rules behind it, the more "stupid" it becomes, and the more "stupid" it makes people think that you are a transparent person, and gradually let go of all defenses against you.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to be "silly" in these three things

02

In the face of your lover's unwillingness, you must learn to "silly" invisible.

Some people say: "Playing stupid, if done well, is called wise and ignorant. If done well, it is called deep." Not only in work, but also in relationships.

The marriage between Biao Ayuan and his sister-in-law Xiurong is simply a miraculous existence in the eyes of relatives and friends. My cousin has been cheating, buying a house and a car for a woman outside of marriage; my cousin has been forbearing, serving her parents-in-law and raising her children wholeheartedly, as if nothing happened.

Although this is an open secret, under the supervision of the cousin, their family of three also looks harmonious and beautiful, and they look enviable wherever they go.

Now, their only son is about to get married, perhaps because he feels guilty about his son, and the cousin who has been "free and loose" for most of his life suddenly wakes up, cuts off contact with his lover, and goes home as a "home cook". The housework is all covered, and I also buy clothes and send flowers to my cousin from time to time.

In this regard, the cousin never made public, but only accepted it with a smile. Sister-in-law also smiled at others' genuine or fake sympathy and concern. In her eyes, in her heart, and in her mouth, from the beginning to the end, she said the good things of her cousin. It seemed that those things made her heartache. things have nothing to do with her.

Perhaps this is another expression of love. "Hold the hand of the son, grow old with the son" is a life-long oath, so it must be guarded with a lifetime.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to be "silly" in these three things

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In the face of adolescent children, you might as well be a "silly" parent.

Children grow up, and parents experience youth again.

Every generation has their own youthful temperament. No matter how we want to get closer or closer, we will always be pushed out the door. In the end, we can only see the back of him rushing into the distance.

Adolescent children are like a hedgehog. They don't care about the "thorns" on their bodies. Wherever they go, they are very "self". If you want to get close to them, you must know how to keep your distance, so that they can feel warm without being stabbed by "stabs".

Smart parents know how to play stupid. In terms of learning, don’t pretend to be a “teacher” anymore, and insist on discussing learning problems. You might as well take your children as teachers and guide them to retell or narrate, find out their shortcomings and deficiencies, and ask them for advice. Check for omissions yourself.

In the cultivation of interests and hobbies, it is no longer an imperative, but a subtle influence and respect for the child's choice. In making friends, it is more to guide and encourage children to make efforts to make the three friends who benefit and stay away from the three friends who lose.

When people reach middle age, they must learn to be "silly" in these three things

When you learn to let go, it's not that you don't care about everything, it's that you make the most of the situation, that you change roles and give children the "privilege" to "grow up", so that they gradually understand that they need to walk, break, and fight their own way. .

People often say: "It's hard to be confused, you must be confused but not confused; you must be wise but not stupid when you are doing things."

When people reach middle age, those who have learned to pretend to be stupid are the real people who understand. They lifted weights lightly and gradually lived the way they wanted.