When people reach middle age, they learn self-discipline and start from these few things

"When the boat reaches the river, the waves are more urgent, and the road to the middle of the mountain is steeper." When people reach middle age, it is better.

Time is not enough, money is not enough to spend, the body is gradually unable to bear it, but the burden is getting heavier and heavier.

Learn to be self-disciplined and make yourself a purer person, so that you can calmly deal with the difficulties and dangers of life.

And quitting these things is often the starting point for self-discipline.

01

"Disconnect" with unrelated people and things.

The first time I saw a text message from WeChat "Qingfen", I felt incredible. They are all friends, it doesn't matter if they are in contact or not, at least don't "blatantly" "clear" others.

After watching it many times, I feel that "it's not surprising". Some people are just vague existences on the communication list.

Simply, when I change my phone again, I don't care if the address book is "moved". People who need to be contacted will naturally try their best to find contact information. Those who are infrequently contacted, there is no need to save the number at all.

In the same way, many things around you have nothing to do with you. Don't think that you have had a few meals and drank a few times with your leaders and colleagues, and you are a person with friendship.

In the workplace, the fight is all about strength. The so-called personal connections are also based on the fact that one person has "two brushes". Simply touting it is purely wishful thinking.

Mr. Lu Xun said: "I spend all the time other people drink coffee with writing." When people reach middle age and focus on doing their own thing, what they need most is time. Staying away from irrelevant people and things is the first step to achieving yourself.

02

Correct shortcomings that are difficult to correct.

The great writer Heine said: " Introspection is a mirror, it can clearly reflect our mistakes, so that we have the opportunity to correct. "

No one is perfect, and it is normal to have flaws. However, when this shortcoming becomes a hindrance to one's life span, correcting the shortcoming requires constant self-examination and self-discipline.

Zeng Guofan, a high-ranking official in the late Qing Dynasty, did not lack shortcomings when he was young, such as "lewdness". If he heard that someone married a beautiful wife, he would definitely try his best to take a closer look.

In this regard, while trying his best to control, he tried his best to reflect and criticize himself. He once recorded in his diary: "On December 11th of that year, my friend Naji, who wanted to be strong, was disrespectful."

Later, he realized that the source of this shortcoming was that he was too energetic. So, while writing a diary to reflect, while diverting my attention, I practice regular script, write articles, read books every day, and then go out to run and exercise to make myself tired. Over time, I will change myself.

"It is great to be able to improve after passing." When people reach middle age, they have come to the point where they have to let go of their own shortcomings.

Such as staying up late, such as not loving sports. From time to time, there will be such inspirational stories on the Internet from time to time "persisting for a year to get up early, I started a different life", "running and non-running life, there are differences you can't think of".

If we indulge our shortcomings when we are young, thinking that there will be plenty of opportunities in the future, these shortcomings are harmless. But when a person reaches middle age, life reaches its climax, which is also the starting point of decline. To correct those shortcomings that are wantonly "consuming" us is "cherishing our life".

03

Keep reading and decorate your soul with culture and knowledge.

I once saw a question and answer on the Internet: "Why do people with higher levels like reading more?" A highly praised answer was: "Reading can stimulate enthusiasm for life and exploration of life."

People of different levels and experiences can see very different scenery.

Liu Yuxi wrote in "The Inscription of the Shabby Room": "There are Confucian scholars when talking and laughing, and there are no white people in exchanges. There is no confusion of silk and bamboo, and there is no labor and shape of documents." The aesthetic taste is beyond everyone's reach.

The ancients said: "Those who know don't speak, but they don't know what they say." It is also telling people that a person with great wisdom has its own gullies in his chest and will not exaggerate orally; His knowledge may only be the "one acre and one third of the land" in front of him.

Life is long, going through a curious childhood, impulsive youth, and entering a steady middle age. If you don't have the accumulation of knowledge, if you don't know how to sum up experience from experience, and you're not good at leading yourself with wisdom, then the interest of life may be lost. If there is nothing left, life is just "step on the watermelon rind and slip away wherever you go".

The host of the program, Dong Qing, who insists on reading every day, in various cultural programs, can always export into chapters with ease, bringing people a beautiful enjoyment of "poetry and literature", and also stimulates many people's enthusiasm for reading.

Reading does not necessarily have immediate effects. But the books you have read, like the road you have traveled, will always leave different experiences and memories in life, and slowly, you will see a vast world.

Those who don't study under the excuse of being "busy at work" are actually indulging themselves and stopping their studies. They spend very little free time watching videos, playing games, and browsing Weibo. The process is very relaxing, but once they stop, they are full of exhaustion and emptiness. Once they get used to it, life becomes empty.

When a person reaches middle age, there is no way out.

If you want to try your best to fight again, you have to be self-disciplined.

Today's affairs are completed today, and every day will gain, and every day will gain, so as to comfort parents, guide their children, and inspire themselves, and continue to bear the burden of life bravely and strongly.

Self-discipline is not impossible, but whether you are willing to start from this little thing and gradually become stronger.