When people reach middle age, these three kinds of partings are silent

When people reach middle age, the burdens on their shoulders are getting heavier and heavier, and there is no other way except to gradually strengthen themselves.

Many people, many things, are gradually unable to control, and can only leave quietly. Suddenly I remembered that I wanted to grab something, but I couldn't.

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When people reach middle age, they quietly part from a "carefree" life.

A person's true maturity has nothing to do with age, but with experience.

If you are not at home, you do not know that diesel, rice, oil, and salt are expensive. When I became the head of the family, in the face of various expenses, big and small, I had no confidence in the past, and I began to learn to spend one penny as two cents, and also tried to increase income and reduce expenditure.

As long as you can earn income through labor, you will not care about suffering and tiredness, let alone whether you will be embarrassed. Just look forward to having something to do every day.

Being a parent knows that raising a child is not easy, and you can't help yourself in life. When children are young, they need to be taken care of. When they start school, they need to be patiently accompanied; when they enter adolescence, they are even more cautious.

During the day, give yourself to work, and at night, give yourself to housework and children. Weekends are a rare time for cleaning, not only cleaning, but also taking this opportunity to visit parents at home, take the child to practice outdoors, or accompany him to read a book and have a heart-to-heart talk.

Not to mention, I have to use the weekend time to find ways to remedy the work that I have not been able to complete in the past week, so as to welcome the arrival of Monday with peace of mind.

Time is always not enough, and your own leisure time is an extravagant hope.

Even "buy, buy, buy", you need to be "fast, fast, fast", it is easy not to try to buy things you have never bought before, and the resulting small fluctuations are a waste of money, time, and mood swings. Look, it's not worth it.

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When people reach middle age, they quietly leave their youth.

If you want to make time, give yourself a vacation, get together with your friends and friends, or settle for the next best thing, just make a happy phone call and complain about your annoyance.

But this kind of whimsy and free and easy, has gradually become a luxury. When a person reaches middle age, he will no longer be the same as when he was young.

It's not that they don't want to contact each other, but they have scruples about each other. Those who live a good life will be afraid of "loving to show off", and those who are not living well will begin to know how to "break down their teeth and swallow them in their stomachs".

All weakness, all embarrassment, is a manifestation of incompetence. If even the last "face" is ruthlessly exposed, only embarrassment is left.

When I was young, I felt that I could change the world, but in the end, I could only change myself. Continue to convince yourself, bow to reality, and compromise to life.

In the past, failure was just an attempt, an accumulation of experience. Today, even if you know that your job is worthless the older you get, and there is even the danger of losing your job, but you don’t dare to resign easily and start all over again. In any case, if today can repeat the days of yesterday, it can be regarded as a kind of stability, even if it is only poor and stable.

As people reach middle age, they gradually become accustomed to following the rules. The kind of people who used to be the most disliked and follow the crowd, and now I finally understand the meaning of it: when you can't be stronger with your best efforts, why don't you just be the most ordinary ordinary person.

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When people reach middle age, they gradually withdraw from the group of classmates.

The love of classmates is the relationship we are most reluctant to give up, because it is the carrier of the green years.

But the classmates of today are not the classmates of the past.

When we first joined the group, everyone was just talking about the past. But over time, the social nature of everyone will be revealed.

Some people just want to use the signboard of old acquaintances to see if there is anyone who can be used; some people once had a crush on someone, but missed it for various reasons, and still want to be able to continue their relationship and continue to wipe out some. spark. Others are either complaining about the hard times in the group or showing off their success.

It's just that everyone is an adult, and the real purpose behind everyone's words can be understood at a glance without having to say it clearly.

Those activities of touting, likes, canvassing, and various names, to put it bluntly, are all carefully designed "games", which are no different from intrigue in the workplace.

And the classmates who can really walk with him all the time may have remained silent all the time. But if something really happened to him, he would be there as soon as possible, and he would do his best to save him.

Quitting the classmate group is actually a summary of my past and a solemn bid to say goodbye to my former self. The young man who was young and ignorant of the world finally saw the true face of life, no longer had any illusions, and no longer hesitated, but had enough courage to face the current life and the difficulties of life. .

When a person reaches middle age, there are both "long-term worries" and "immediate worries". I always wish I had three heads and six arms so that I could implement everything that needed to be done.

But in the end, there is only one heart, only one pair of hands, and we can only approach those closest to us and accomplish the most urgent things. Maybe, some partings, we are still reluctant to part, maybe some partings are something we can't bear to see, but these are the fresh days, the most real life.