Smart people, don't get along with these three kinds of people

Some people say: "The people who affect your life are the three people closest to you." It can be seen that in this life, who you are with is really important.

Smart people are always close to those who can bring themselves full of positive energy, so that they can continue to improve, not only improve.

When choosing to make friends, these three types of people, no matter how good they are, will not make deep friendships with them, because more important than good is character.

01

jealous people.

Jealousy is like a sharp knife, it will not only hurt others but also yourself.

Those who are jealous, have the tenacity in their bones to not admit defeat. In order to get ahead, you are often willing to toss yourself hard and force yourself to become excellent. From this aspect alone, it is indeed worth learning.

However, their fatal weakness is that they are only used to being better than others, and once others are better than him, he will hate it so much.

Both Qunying and Xiaoyan are rare strong women in our company. Qunying is ten years older than Xiaoyan and is a senior director of the Personnel Department; Xiaoyan, who is young and capable, becomes the secretary of the board office, attracting everyone's attention.

At the speech meeting for the promotion of middle-level cadres to senior cadres in 2008, the two's speeches for competition were also different and comparable. However, Xiaoyan's cheerful and peaceful personality has won her praise from more staff. In this regard, Qunying was very jealous, relying on his old qualifications, so he went to the person in charge of the relevant department, played emotional cards, talked about how he took care of everyone over the years, and directly asked to vote in the voting session. her ticket.

Later, the company executives made a decision and promoted Qunying and Xiaoyan at the same time. But after Xiaoyan learned that Qunying had done behind-the-scenes lobbying, she gradually distanced herself from her contacts.

A person with a strong jealousy will always deliberately or unintentionally calculate the competitors who are on the same level as themselves. Sometimes, when someone said something unintentionally, he would care too much, and insisted on making something out of it so that others would not come down from the stage.

In their eyes, there are no permanent friends, only permanent interests. If anyone becomes an obstacle to his promotion and salary increase, any face and affection can be torn apart, and there is no human touch at all.

02

An ungrateful person.

"Cai Gen Tan" says: "Nine out of ten words may not be surprising, and if one word is not right, it will be arrogant; nine out of ten plans may not be credited, and if one fails, the business will be prosperous. Therefore, the gentleman prefers to be quiet and not impatient, and to be humble. What a coincidence." It means: Even if you say ten sentences right nine times, no one will praise you, but if you say one wrong sentence, you will be blamed immediately, and even if you design nine times out of ten, no one will reward you, but as long as you say one wrong sentence Once a plan fails, there will be complaints and accusations.

This phrase is most appropriate to describe an ungrateful person. When they have something to ask for, their attitude can be kept very low, and their attitude can be described as extremely pious. Once they lose their use value, they will pretend to be strangers, and from then on, they will never communicate with each other.

A few years ago, our unit hired a master graduate student who passed the selection examination. As a high-level talent, he was very important. He rented a house for him, and gave him the greatest care in life. At work, his leaders and colleagues were willing to help him and respond to his needs.

But he just wanted to add some grassroots work experience to himself, and didn't want to make any achievements. Therefore, whenever there is an opportunity to make a public appearance, he scrambles to show it.

I remember one time when a high-profile young cadre symposium was held, he was afraid that his speech materials would not be good enough, so he honestly asked the person who is best at writing materials in the unit to help him revise the manuscript again and again, and the result was very good. After that, the job-hopping was realized.

Everyone thought that he would be a person who remembers kindness, but for his selfless help to everyone, not to mention any material representations, he would never talk about it and mention it from time to time. What made everyone even more chilling was that as soon as he arrived at his new position, he deleted the contact information with all our colleagues.

The colleague who helped him with the material said that he shouldn't have helped him if he knew it earlier. The better you treat him, the more he will be like a "predator", who will only eat and squeeze others out, and then discard it. . Let yourself have a feeling of being "victimized", and often feel resentful in your heart.

03

always complaining.

People can not escape from doing wrong. Occasionally complaining is to vent, it is human nature.

But for a person who likes to complain, he can complain about everything, no matter how good a life is, it is a stagnant pool of water, and it can't make any waves.

With such people, there will be a feeling of being dragged down.

For example, I once had a colleague who lost her husband in middle age and felt that the whole world owed her. Going to work every day, if the weather is sunny, she complains that the sun is too big, and on rainy days, she complains that everything is wet; every day at lunch in the cafeteria, everyone eats happily, but she has to point out the bad aspects of each dish. The place that made people who had a great appetite felt that they couldn't eat it anymore.

As for work, her habitual practice is to push the task as soon as she has it, complaining to the supervisor that she cannot do it because she is too old; complaining to her colleagues that the supervisor is always demanding too much.

Even the sound of typing on the keyboard has become an inducement for her headache, making me feel that perhaps my breathing has threatened her life.

During that time, I also felt that I became nervous, the efficiency of my work decreased, and I was still very bored. I really couldn't stand her complaining as soon as she opened her mouth. In spite of her boss's objection, she moved into a room with no windows to work.

A person who likes to complain is actually an incompetent person. Everyone has their own unspeakable sad past. Only by facing the reality and having the courage to turn the page will not let oneself fall into the absurd situation of self-denial and denying everything. Complaining is like an invisible rope that slowly kills a person's remaining fighting spirit.

Smart people are always good at using the power of others to drive their own growth.

When you find that the friends around you have too much negative energy, it is actually a consumption of yourself, so you quickly stay away. It has to be said that it is a kind of prudent protection and a positive choice.