See through the careful thinking pursued by the boss, and solve the embarrassing situation in the office
Welcome to Career Dao Time, the career Dao can only be known after you have heard it. I am Jane. In the workplace, men and women are not only colleagues, but sometimes because of long-term contact and running-in, they gradually develop feelings and develop into workplace romances. As the saying goes, men and women match, work is not tired. It will be more efficient to work with the company of the opposite sex, but this will bring another effect, that is, love over time. A man and a woman have no emotional connection, but they work together all day, and they look down and see each other. From the beginning of companionship, to habit, to dependence, and finally to love .
However, due to the particularity of the workplace, workplace romance is taboo for many companies. Since personal emotions are involved in work, unfair evaluation, distribution and judgment will inevitably occur. Therefore, it is well known that once the romantic relationship between the subordinates and subordinates of the same department is exposed, basically it is not two people who violate the company's articles of association and leave together, or leave one and keep the other. Although this phenomenon does not exist in all enterprises, most enterprises with strict management will have similar regulations.
The so-called prevention of small and gradual progress, many workplace people with long-term workplace plans are also repulsive of workplace love, and even think that two people are tired of working together. It is scary. But not everyone can feel the other party's thoughts and intentions very keenly, especially when the other party is their own leader, it is even more difficult to figure out feelings mixed with work.
If you want to prevent a workplace romance with your boss from the beginning, then some of the boss's performance at work has to be carefully paid attention to.
Work time is often with you. When there is a need to go out at work, the boss is willing to call you, and often ask you to go to his office, but there is nothing special, or it is obvious that you can call others, but he likes to call you in, just for more Increase some opportunities to reach out to you. This is actually a sign that your boss is interested in you.
Take special care of you at work. A boss who has a good opinion of you will definitely take care of you at work. For example, when assigning work, he will assign you some relatively simple content, so that you can feel that he takes care of you deliberately, especially If someone else makes a mistake, he will scold you, but he will choose to tolerate your mistakes, which also facilitates him to build an image of treating you preferentially in your heart.
Talk to you differently from them. He usually doesn't speak much, and his attitude towards others is not very enthusiastic, but he will only show affection and enthusiasm to you. In fact, you can also feel it, and when he talks to you, his tone will be unconscious. Be softer, so that you can feel his difference to you.
Care about your private life. As a boss, it is normal to occasionally care about the private life of a subordinate, and it can also reflect the boss's approval and concern for the subordinate, but if the boss cares too much, it will easily be interpreted as having other thoughts about the subordinate.
Invitations outside of work. If your boss is interested in you, he will make an appointment with you outside the normal eight hours of work. At the beginning, he just used the excuse of work to contact you to test your attitude. If you do not refuse, he will have the next step. Take action, ask you to go out to a coffee shop, or say that you don’t know how to buy clothes, let you help with reference, and after the reference, there will be a reason to invite you to a meal. This kind of thing is actually a trap that he has planned for a long time, step by step to let you fall into the pit.
A boss who often promises higher salaries and promotions to female colleagues. For female subordinates with excellent performance, it is also an art of leadership to suggest that there may be opportunities for promotion or salary increase, which can indeed mobilize the enthusiasm of employees. However, if it can be achieved with promises, there are obviously other motives. - A unit has strict regulations and organizational procedures for personnel changes, especially promotions and salary increases. It is not the leader who has the final say. Even if the leadership has the final say, public selection is required. If a boss often makes such promises to female subordinates, it means that he has obvious intentions.
In the face of the leadership's pursuit of offensive, in fact, can not drag the water. The more indecision, the more it affects not only your work but also your own life.
Righteous three views, resist temptation, and do not seek rashly. As the saying goes, a hero loves a beautiful woman in a proper way. Being a person is the foundation of doing things. Only employees with positive character and three views are popular, can win trust, and can gain a foothold in the team. In the face of complex interpersonal relationships and unexpected feelings, we must stick to our principles and bottom lines, consciously resist temptation, and never have anything to do with married people. delusional.
If the boss's likes are more malicious. While keeping oneself clean, it is also necessary to subjectively cut off the boss’s imagination, bluntly say that you have a partner or do not want to talk about feelings, and at the same time minimize the opportunities to be alone with your boss, especially private time. If the leader is entangled with you, you may want to seek help from a higher-level leader and mobilize your position to change the environment. The worst outcome is nothing more than to seek peace in another company.
If under the pursuit of the leader, the two will eventually fall in love with each other, and their relationship will be innocent. Don't be carried away by love: 1. Keep a low profile, don't be full of storms. If the relationship is sincere and pure, and the two love each other, after entering the stage of getting along, it is recommended to keep a low profile, this is for the sake of each other's future situation. In the stage of passionate love, people often want to tell the world about their happiness, but the love is so obvious to the world that it will cut off the possibility of turning around gracefully in the future. After all, few people can calmly face the embarrassment of being in the same room and the comments of colleagues.
- Get along rationally and put work first. Most of the two parties in a workplace relationship get along day and night, look and talk more, and care about her/his every move, which will make people emotional, make it difficult to concentrate, and lead to low work efficiency. The foundation of one's life is work. If the work is not done well, or even drags down the other party, the so-called relationship is likely to disappear. Psychological research proves that people who work in a mess are less attractive.