No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, you can't reveal these three types of privacy.
No matter how good your relationship with your colleagues is, keep in mind one thing: there are only eternal interests, no eternal friends.
When it comes to your privacy, especially these three aspects, you must not say it out, otherwise, it is equivalent to "digging a hole" for yourself, giving others a handle, and when you are calculated, you can only blame yourself for "not keeping your mouth shut" .
01
own personal connections.
The ancients said: "There are people in the DPRK who are good officials." Up to now, the role of this "nepotism" cannot be underestimated, especially in the relatively remote and backward small counties in the 18th tier. The phenomenon of "one person gains the Tao, the chicken and the dog ascend to the sky" is still not uncommon.
For example, if a unit only recruits one employee, under the same conditions, of course, priority will be given to those who are "connected". After all, both the written test and the interview were passed, and the "admission by merit" in the inspection process is justifiable.
In a place the size of a palm, there are only a few people with fame and status. If you don’t say it yourself, those who have a heart will also infer your “personal network” through various clues.
If you are complacent about this and show a sense of superiority, it is equivalent to "revealing your trump card" and will become "the target of public criticism". After all, there are many people with deeper backgrounds and harder relationships than you. It's just that they never say it or admit it. Then, all the hatred and bad reviews for the "connected households" will fall on you. If you are a person who has no scheming and does not understand the city government, you can only become a "victim" of moral kidnapping.
Of course, the more "connected households" there are in the city, the more deeply hidden. In their normal work, they will never look for trouble. Some people will also act very hard to prove that they are eating by "strength". They have strong working ability and focus on building good relationships with leaders and colleagues. After years of hard work, they are often able to gain a firm foothold and form a new network of contacts.
02
own family situation.
People often say that if a person has money or not, it is like whether a person is wearing underwear. It’s good to know for yourself. Don’t let others know, so as not to be laughed at.
Among colleagues, although in the same work platform, everyone is in the same position, but everyone hopes that they can be stronger than others and appear to be "superior". Since work can’t be compared, it’s better than family.
So: "Where does your lover work?" "What are your parents?" "How many suites does your family have?" These questions similar to "checking household registration" will be pursued by people. Not only those aunts in their 40s and 50s like to inquire, but some leaders also expressed a strong interest in it.
After all, if you are a rich person who lives in a luxury house, drives a luxury car, and travels everywhere, they will also think that it is very "long face" to want to eat and drink. And you are a "poor man" yourself, and the conditions at home are not good, so others will look down on you from the bottom of their hearts. And if you are young, you experience the failure of marriage, and it will be regarded as a stain that cannot be washed away in your life, and all kinds of bad words will be scattered.
Therefore, with colleagues, only talk about business affairs, not family affairs, even if it is the harmless "private" topic of "how to educate good children" that everyone will talk about, you must keep a distance and draw a clear line.
Let others know nothing about your family, in order to maintain personal independence and dignity in front of leaders and colleagues.
03
Discord with colleagues.
People in the unit, the most taboo is the relationship between colleagues, whether you are wrong or not, as long as you say it, it must be your fault. If you are not treated by the leader, feel very wronged, and go to your colleagues to complain, you may get the label of "not being a human being" in exchange for being quick-tempered.
It's true that people have different values, and some people just "smelt like each other", and they are accustomed to hypocritically touting each other. Even if it is exaggerated to say: "You wear this dress, you are like a star." This kind of clumsy and exaggerated remarks will make people laugh from ear to ear.
As for the leader's work arrangement, although he is very conflicted in his heart, he can show his sincere affirmation and absolute support. At the end, he should add a sentence: "Leader, don't worry, I promise to do it well."
Those who are good at "acting", even if their leaders are picky about themselves, they will talk about how the leaders feel at ease and trust in them in public, and regard those "grievances" as the leaders' exercise for them. If you talk too much, the leader will be restrained, and other people will no longer point and point at you, saying that you "have a bad relationship".
People in the unit, do not expect to be able to turn colleagues into friends.