In life, try your best, don't try too hard

In "A Dream of Red Mansions", it is said: "Sometimes in life you must have it eventually, and there is no time in your life to force it".

Born as a human being, you should work hard in everything, but if you work too hard, it is often too much.

The best attitude is: "Get it calmly, lose it indifferently, fight for its inevitability, and let it take its course."

People who work too hard are more tired physically and mentally.

My colleague, Sister Wang, is the director of the office. She is almost fifty years old. She still insists on being the first to arrive every day, distributing newspapers and important documents, and putting them on the desks of several executives before they go to work. Heartily make a cup of tea for each of them.

Everyone sneered at this kind of work method with a strong "flattering" meaning, thinking that she was "too hard". Because there is a special person in charge of distributing newspapers, tea and sanitation, and there is no need for her to do it herself.

It's just that Sister Wang doesn't care about these discussions at all. She was able to be promoted from a typist to an office director because of her carefulness and thoroughness.

There are many talented people in the office, some people write well, some people have strong communication and coordination skills, but Wang Jie always wins everyone's "admiration", it is because she has been putting her work in the most important position for decades. Do everything to the best of your ability.

Ke Ren's energy is always limited, he can take care of one end, but not the other. Sister Wang's husband couldn't stand such a "disregarding family" woman and took his daughter to live in another city. Although they did not divorce, the two were already strangers. When Sister Wang went to see her daughter, she often hurried away overnight and came back overnight, never willing to ask for leave once.

In Sister Wang's eyes, work is her only thing. Although it is trivial, complicated, and laborious, she has long been used to it. She wants to use this kind of devotion to give herself a sense of existence and security, but she has lost the warmth of her family for this. Who can tell whether it is worth it?

Love too hard, hurt others and hurt yourself.

The movie "I Want to Be Good With You" tells the story of a pair of urban lovers from acquaintance to love, and the gradual demise of love under the "too hard" love.

The love of the male and female protagonists has not experienced too many twists and turns, and has entered the stage of you and me. But the hero's late-night meeting with his "ex-girlfriend", ambiguous text messages with colleagues, and going to nightclubs all bring deep insecurities to the heroine. To this end, she tried every means to "control" her boyfriend's whereabouts. For the male protagonist, his girlfriend's love is almost "suffocated", and the only way out is to escape.

A pair of lovers took a sharp turn because of "too hard love", and the ending was sad. It seems abrupt, even a little exaggerated, but it is derived from the refinement of real life.

To truly love someone is not to be afraid of the other person's departure at any time, but to firmly believe: "The more I love him, the more he loves me." .

"There are a hundred beauties and a thousand reds in the world, and I only love your kind." This infatuation, this loyalty, does not need to be tested by others, but recognizes the other person as the only love in this life.

For those loves that are too hard, neither side trusts each other from the bottom of their hearts, and those insecurities come from distrusting themselves and the other half. Instead of trying hard to "tie" the other person to your side, it is better to let go, let go, let yourself become a better person, and give the other person enough freedom.

Because the person who truly loves you will still love you after going around.

Excessive expectation is an unbearable burden in life.

Parents all over the world, do not "want their sons to become dragons and their daughters to become phoenixes". But how many people often impose their unrealized dreams on their children, either overtly or covertly, which seems to be "for the children's good", but in fact, they are very selfish.

The thing children are most afraid of, apart from quarreling with their parents, is to compare themselves with other people's children. Even if you do your best, once you fail to achieve the goals your parents expect, you will be accused of "how can you be so stupid, it's so disappointing".

The disdainful words of the parents, the contemptuous eyes, and the small gestures of disdain, are like the sharpest knives, leaving indelible scars in the young heart.

Writer Long Yingtai wrote in "Children, Take Your Time":

> > I, sitting on the stone steps with the light of the setting sun, watching this clear-eyed child do one thing attentively; yes, I am willing to wait a lifetime for him to calmly tie this bow and use His five-year-old fingers. Take your time, baby. >

If a person loves a child, not because of what he wants the child to be, but only because "you are you", this kind of unconditional love will give the child a full sense of security and happiness. become the inexhaustible driving force of his life.

A good life, "do what you need to do, and don't worry about being alone". Life should go with the flow, advance and retreat freely.

If we are always in a tense state of life, we are undoubtedly approaching a desperate situation, and we can only move forward, not backward. I just want to "win", but don't know what to do when "lose" comes.

An elegant life is the calmness to read the world, the wisdom to experience the vicissitudes of life, and the indifference to go through thousands of sails.

Life cannot be complete, and regret is also a kind of beauty. Don't let too much force make your life burden too heavy and unbearable.