I have a dispute with the leader, what should I do?
Where there are people, there is right and wrong. Once there is a disagreement between black and white, disputes will arise.
In the adult world, quarrels and fights never solve problems. Quarrel will only make the mood worse; fight, win the jail, lose the hospital.
Workplace communication, for the purpose of solving problems, your spells should be:
Empathy, seeking common ground and then differences, and retreating when necessary.
Think in another person's shoes, walk in someone else's shoes, and think about it from the other person's point of view. It will be easier for you to understand his behavior. It is normal for you to have different positions and disagreements.
This is a mentality issue, which is easier said than done. The more understanding, the less conflict.
Seeking common ground first is to reach a consensus, and then seeking differences is to resolve disputes. Controversies that can be shelved, there is no need to be serious, debates that cannot distinguish right from wrong, just hurt each other.
This is a matter of method. If you get more YES first, then the NO will be easy to handle.
Forbearance a moment, calm, take a step back, a brighter future. Compared with being aggressive and giving in in a timely manner, the other party will feel your generosity and understanding, and it is easier to reach a consensus.
This is a problem of routines. The east wind is blowing the drums of war. Whoever is afraid of the sons and daughters of the rivers and lakes will retreat for the sake of running.
Whether it is with a leader or a colleague, resolving disputes is nothing more than that.
In the process of resolving disputes, the most important thing is emotional control. Brother Ming reminded:
It is not that the prime minister can punt the boat in his stomach, but he is the prime minister who can punt the boat in his stomach.
A few days ago I saw a workplace problem:
How to elegantly tell the leader, "You are a rubbish"?
He might really be trash, the problem is, it's not smart to compete with trash. With this obsession, in fact, you have already lost.
Let's take an extreme case first...
How to repair the relationship after scolding the leader in public?
Give up the fantasy of repairing the relationship, and quickly make another plan. You are already cold, and there is nothing good to eat.
Will "I sincerely apologize, he accepts it generously" and reunite, as before?
Can pull it down, don't be naive...
Leaders really have this mind, they will not scold you in public!
What's more, even if the broken mirror can be re-rounded, the crack will still exist.
It's not good to swear at people, how ugly it is to hear, especially scolding, who will let who?
Once you lose your mind, your mouth is full of biochemical weapons.
You call him fat head and big ears, he is a bastard and a fat man; he calls you sharp-mouthed monkey cheeks, and he is malnourished at first sight. When scolding someone, of course, it's cool to scold the other person until they are constipated...
When they are angry, they are often speaking from their hearts, which can be very damaging.
Whenever I think about it in the future, it's like a thorn in my heart.
"Scolding" is very bad, and even more terrible is "public".
If there is a dispute in the leadership's office, there is a quarrel, even if you say something unpleasant, there is no outsider, you silently admit a mistake, he quietly forgives, it's okay to say...
Everyone has a face problem, and leaders are naturally more concerned about their own image. In front of your colleague, you not only questioned him, but even insulted him. If you don't kill him, do you still need to be an official?
Cursing people is cool for a while, and regretting it is heartbreaking.
For today's plan, I am afraid I can only find a horse on a donkey.
Not all "sorry" can be exchanged for "it's okay".
Therefore, Mingge's suggestion is:
If you plan to "I quit," it doesn't matter if you go wild. If not, be cautious.
What should I do if I get scolded in various ways after a conflict with the leader?
Share two sets of nibbling-
> > Leaders can never be wrong; >
> > If I find that the leader is wrong, it must be me; >
> > If I am not mistaken, it must be because of my fault that the leader made a mistake; >
> > If it is his own fault, as long as he does not admit it, it is my fault; >
> > If the leader does not admit his fault, and I still insist that he is at fault, then it is my fault; >
> > In short, the leadership is absolutely not wrong, this sentence is absolutely not wrong. >
> > When dealing with children, we must take care of his innocence; >
> > When dealing with teenagers, take care of his impulses; >
> > When dealing with young people, take care of his self-esteem; >
> > When dealing with men, take care of his face; >
> > When dealing with a woman, take care of her emotions; >
> > When dealing with the elderly, we must take care of his dignity; >
> > When dealing with a leader, one cannot challenge his authority. >
In the workplace, doing two things is the most stupid:
One, trying to prove the leadership wrong;
Second, question the authority of the leadership.
You can have different ideas, you can make your own suggestions, or you can stick to your point of view, but you need to distinguish between big and small, and remember who has the right to decide.
It doesn't matter if your voice is a little louder.
But once it escalates into a quarrel, it becomes a class conflict, and its nature has changed. It is no longer a matter of discussion, but only about emotions. Abruptly turned the work into a personal grudge.
Quarrel with the leader, no matter right or wrong, you take half the responsibility.
To convince your leaders, follow these steps:
> > 1. Select the appropriate timing of the proposal; >
> > 2. Collect relevant information, including data and information; >
> > Three, imagine the question of the leader and prepare the answer in advance; >
> > Fourth, the speech is concise and to the point, addressing the key points and key points of the problem; >
> > Fifth, fully respect the leadership. >
For the high-ranking person, don't take his face as an insole.
The tragedy has already happened, and understanding the truth can be punished, but the mess still needs to be sorted out.
If you don't want to walk away, you should admit your mistakes and apologize if you need to. Even if it's his fault, you shouldn't argue with him. If it's hard to tell right from wrong, or it's your fault, even more so.
Quarrel must hurt feelings, no matter how big the leader's heart is, things have already happened, and everyone is a points system, you can only rely on subsequent performance to make up for it.
Remember, your apology must be sincere and your review must be profound.
Don't expect leaders to let go first. Put it down and find a suitable opportunity, such as a departmental dinner. When I was slightly drunk, when I lent a toast to the leader, "I am young and ignorant", "You have a lot of adults", "I hope to give more advice in the future", etc. I have to say something. .
Make leaders feel like:
> > First, you can correct it immediately if you know it is wrong; >
> > Second, you accidentally made a mess when you were excited. >
Take the big from the benefits, take the small from the harm, and find a way to turn the war into jade and silk.
In the future, please remind yourself:
Losing your temper simply means that your wisdom or ability is not enough to solve the problem you are facing.
Bad leaders, how to deal with it?
People have different temperaments and different ways of doing things. It's hard to say right or wrong about "not easy to get along with", but one thing is clear:
He is a general, you are a soldier, and the relationship is between superiors and subordinates.
No matter how incompetent a general is, he is still a general. Unless you want to be a deserter and change to a general, the first lesson you have to learn when you come out is to obey orders. A soldier who does not want to be a general is not a good soldier. There is nothing wrong with this, but you must first be a good soldier before you can become a general.
How to communicate with difficult leaders, the basic principle is: smooth hair.
Never think about one thing: change my leadership.
Don't talk about the boss, you can't change your wife. If you always want to reform each other in marriage, there will be no good results.
The marriage relationship is still equal, and between you and the BOSS, he is the higher one.
If you don't get along well, just do what you like, that's a smart move.
What are the behavioral characteristics of a bad leader?
Is it that the standard is too high, and if it does not meet expectations, it will go crazy?
Is it to stick to the details in everything, and catch the small mistakes and then pull the braids?
If you have a bad temper and scold people at every turn, you want to recruit him so that he can't find a reason to scold people!
After careful consideration, what is the point of "not easy to get along with", what can be broken, what can be avoided, and what can be tolerated.
If the leadership only requires high standards and strict requirements, you can't stand it...
Remember, to meet such a leader, you must cherish it!
Sooner or later you will understand that the leader who can force you to grow is the best leader.
He has a gentle personality. If you are wrong, you can talk about it, and even remind you with a smile. You are relaxed and you let yourself go. You are comfortable and you are comfortable, but your growth rate must be very slow, because you have no pressure, and you can also There is no pain, the frog is boiled in warm water every day, and the leisurely days are day after day...
Maybe it's cool now, but later? If you don’t get along well in the workplace, or you can’t even get along, who will help you?
This tenderness is like a chronic poison that will kill you!
No matter whether the leader is harsh or unreasonable, as long as there is no prejudice and selfishness, and just hate iron, this kind of leader is a rare professional mentor.
Is it important to get along? Is bad temper the key?
Most importantly, you can learn something from him!
Your ability is on your own, even if you leave one day, the company can't stay, and you have nothing to do with the leader, it's all yours!
I have written a lot of workplace opinions, and there are always young friends who say to me, "Brother Ming, you are right, but it is not easy to do", well, maybe, but you must know that in the adult world, in addition to easy Getting fat is not easy...
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