Smart people will never be 'fudged' by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

Smart people will never be "fudged" by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

In life, people often say something, because of the wide audience, coupled with the catharsis of emotions and the lack of rational thinking, over time, it seems to become the "truth" that cannot be questioned.

But when I think about it, I always feel that there is something wrong with these words, either because the logic is not logical, or it is a generalization.

"Mencius" says: It is better to have no book than to believe in the book.

Books that are valued by human beings are still not fully believed, let alone a few gossip.

Bingxin once said:

A calm mind, in any environment, can build a deeper world.

This reminds us that we must learn to think independently, not to follow others' opinions and be carried away by emotions;

In the real society, what others say is not necessarily based on objective facts, but may be just to achieve one's own purpose, or even have ulterior motives;

Therefore, we must stay awake and do not believe the following three sentences.

Smart people will never be "fudged" by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

"poor person must have something mean"

It has been said that many times people don't like you, not because you have any moral flaws or do something wrong, but because of "your existence".

Poor people must have something hateful, which belongs to the "irrelevance fallacy", which refers to the fact that the premise and conclusion of an event are irrelevant;

In many cases, it is just a distortion and misjudgment of facts or people, used to vent their dissatisfaction recklessly.

A poor man has nothing to do with whether he is hateful or not.

There are many poor people in the world. People who have been through war have lost their homes and become poor people. How can they hate them?

Some criminals, abducting, selling, hurting women and children, those poor and helpless people, how can they hate it?

Some people, when disaster strikes, do good deeds and rescue many ordinary people, sacrifice their health or life, and become poor people. How can they hate them?

Some things happen by accident, and it is a natural disaster, not caused by the quality or mistakes of the parties involved;

On the contrary, the occurrence of some social vicious events is often caused by unprovoked malice;

Maliciousness is like spit, which can be "sprayed" at anyone at any time, for example: "I just see her upset!"

Similar to "a slap doesn't make a sound".

This theory of "the victim is guilty" is untenable in itself. It is often just malicious speculation that ignores the facts. It is a kind of maliciousness and a kind of meanness.

We should analyze specific things in detail, instead of jumping to conclusions and hurting others by mistake.

If others judge us in this way, we should also treat it rationally, change it if we have it, and encourage it if we don’t.

Smart people will never be "fudged" by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

"No pain No gain"

In "Born in Trouble, Die in Peace" says:

Sun Shuao was raised in the sea, and Baili Xi was raised in the city. Therefore, when the heavens will give great responsibilities to people, they must first suffer their minds and wills, toil their muscles and bones, starve their bodies and skin, and deplete their bodies.

Therefore, when many people encounter setbacks, they will "push up" themselves: only after suffering is the best.

They think that those who succeed, the reason for victory is to endure hardship, so they use this sentence to "encourage" themselves.

But in fact, your success and progress, and your hardships do not constitute a causal relationship. This sentence is a "slippery slope fallacy".

The Slippery Slippery Fallacy refers to the unreasonable use of a chain of causal relationships to convert possibility into necessity.

After suffering and suffering, Fang Weiren's "logical chain" is as follows:

Endure more hardship, outperform more people, get admitted to a better university, a better university can help you find a better job, a better job can make more money, and more money can bring you Bring more happiness and success and become a superior person.

But in fact, every chain is just a possibility;

For example, if you endure more hardships, but do not pay attention to study methods, you may just stay where you are, without really mastering the knowledge, so you will not be able to get into a good university;

If you are admitted to a good university, it may be difficult to get a job or make little money because of a bad external environment or an unpopular major;

Therefore, the possibility of correlation does not mean that it will happen. Suffering worthwhile, or even not suffering, may be more valuable and meaningful than suffering.

This sentence is usually said from the boss or some leaders, and is used to "draw a big cake" for the workplace;

They try to use this sentence to confuse you, mislead you, and let you take off your guard and work for the company wholeheartedly. The more you pay, the more they benefit;

If they don't want to recognize you, they can counter you with the phrase "advance to attack, retreat to defend"

"Because you don't work hard enough, you can't be a superior person."

They do not have a fair, reasonable and scientific standard to measure and compare your efforts and achievements. They can only use some vague and logically wrong words to fool you and manipulate you.

Smart people will never be "fudged" by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

"You have to thank those who hurt you"

As a child, I read a story about "Maupassant buys a kick".

French writer Maupassant, because he wanted to describe the feeling of being kicked in a work, went to the street to find a beggar and asked him to kick himself;

The beggar was surprised until Maupassant explained the reason and returned the money to the beggar. After the beggar kicked Maupassant, he went back and quickly wrote down the real feeling of being kicked.

According to some people's ideas, Maupassant would like to thank the beggar who "wounded" him, and he takes it for granted that the person who gave him pain and torture should be remembered and thanked.

These people have also made logical mistakes. What you should thank is not the person who hurt you, but the one who has overcome the difficulties and stood up again;

The host Chai Jing mentioned in "Seeing" that his predecessor Chen Fei said:

Pain is wealth, this is nonsense. Pain is pain, thinking about pain is.

A tenacious and tenacious will is not given to you by those who hurt you, it is likely that you already have these qualities;

If you don't get hurt, you may use this valuable quality to other positive aspects, walk on a smooth and smooth path, and live a happier life.

"Maupassant buys a kick" is an "active" decision, and most of us are hurt passively or even unknowingly;

In the process of recovering from trauma, some people fell, some stood up, and very few people can surpass the pain, because it is like a scar, imprinted in the most secret place.

Actor Yue Yunpeng once mentioned that when he dropped out of school to be a restaurant waiter in his early years, he was insulted by a customer for a long time in public for miscalculating the price;

Even though he was fired because of this incident and changed careers, and then became famous, the humiliating experience still made him unable to let go.

So, when we stand up again after being hurt, remember to hug our lovely self and say:

"Honey, you are really nice!"

Just like Cai Kangyong said in "Wonderful Flowers":

It's not forgiveness, it's not forgetting, it's forgetting.

People who can say "you have to thank those who hurt you" either have low emotional intelligence and weak empathy;

Either he is the one who hurts us, just trying to instill in us a "concept", so that we don't "be held accountable" against them.

Smart people will never be "fudged" by these 3 frequently said words. Confused people are easy to be fooled.

What others say and their evaluation of us are not necessarily all from goodwill;

What is right and what is wrong, we must learn to use logical thinking to analyze rationally, not to be deceived by the rhetoric of others, and to miss the happiness that could have been obtained.