Never tell your colleagues these 3 'privacy'
The workplace is turbulent, and there are open and secret fights, there are good colleagues, and there are many "bad" colleagues;
Mature adults, don't wait until you fall down before you regret it, so never tell your colleagues about these three "privacy".
Don't tell colleagues about your troubles in your marriage and family
I watched a TV series "Rules Before Divorce".
In the play, Wang Mingxuan, played by Jia Nailiang, and Jiang Xinyao, played by Bai Baihe, are a newlywed couple;
Wang Mingxuan's family is harmonious and complete, Jiang Xinyao's parents divorced since childhood, and his father was sentenced to prison for theft.
Wang Mingxuan's subordinate Fang Ting is a capable and scheming person. Her father is a well-known lawyer;
At the beginning, the young couple lived in peace, until Xinyao's father came to the door and stayed at the two's house, and even had a violent conflict with Wang Mingxuan;
Wang Mingxuan was burdened with the pressure of supporting his family, and his marriage was messed up. When he was bored, he told Fang Ting all these troubles. Fang Ting asked her father for advice and told Wang Mingxuan the solution.
In the future, Fang Ting won the trust of Wang Mingxuan, and habitually helped him solve various conflicts in his marriage and family. The two were often inseparable and had secret feelings.
Until Xinyao's mother made a quarrel downstairs in the two companies, saying that Fang Ting was a mistress, destroying her daughter's marriage.
This incident spread over and over in the company, Fang Ting was deeply hurt, but she acted lightly. In the end, she "removed" Wang Mingxuan by playing tricks and ascended the throne of the leader herself.
In the workplace, this kind of thing is not uncommon. Some simple-minded people like to share their troublesome housework with colleagues, but they don't know that these privacy, listening to colleagues' ears, is easy to do what they think.
Home is a person's harbor and weakness. All vulgarity and unbearableness will appear in marriage and family. Telling colleagues about these private matters is like burying a ticking time bomb.
If you meet a colleague of good character, just listen to it;
If you happen to meet your potential "competitor", you may be used. Maybe the help and relief of the other party is a good thing, but in the long run, it will inevitably lead to unforeseen problems and bring disaster to yourself.
If you meet a colleague who likes to gossip, these "ugly incidents" of yours are just talk about the colleague after dinner.
Never tell your colleagues these 3 "privacy"
Don't tell colleagues about your relationship background at the company
One of my classmates, Da Yan, once complained to me;
One of her female colleagues, Yingying, spreads rumors about her everywhere. After careful inquiry, she found out that it was Dayan who had told Yingying that one of her aunts was an executive in the company.
Dayan and Yingying rented a house together, and something unpleasant happened;
Dayan has a strong personality, but Yingying can't compete on the surface, so she can only vent her dissatisfaction with Dayan by spreading gossip "under the covers".
Then something happened, which made Da Yan even more unexpected;
The group adjusts the company structure and divides the employees of various departments into different branches;
Dayan thought she could work in the branch where her aunt was working, but she didn't want to. The leader informed her to go to another branch.
And the leader of the branch where Dayan went, on the surface, she was not bad, but there was always an inexplicable sense of alienation;
Some good opportunities will not let Da Yan exercise, and even once there was a work problem, the leader scolded Da Yan loudly.
Dayan was full of grievances and did not understand why the leaders treated her differently.
In fact, it is because the executives of Dayan's company have a "competitive relationship" with her aunt;
At that time, Da Yan was already emerging in her work. Her leaders were worried that Da Yan would become more and more powerful and would threaten her even more with her competitors. Therefore, Da Yan's development had to be suppressed.
In the workplace, some bosses, for the development of their own companies, will subtly create some necessary "fights" among their subordinates, for example, let the company leaders "hostile" and "compete" with each other, and at the same time rely on these people's "strive for the upper reaches". ”, to bring the greatest benefit to himself.
Therefore, the boss will not agree to let two capable or close relatives work in the same department or company.
Your "relationship background" will not form a "joint force" with you in the company, and may also be "forced to separate", you will not work under your own umbrella, it is better to rely on yourself.
The reason why Dayan told Yingying that her aunt was a senior executive in the company was actually to satisfy her own vanity and wanted her colleagues to look up to her.
Therefore, don't "actively" tell your colleagues about your relationship background in the company, and make trouble for yourself.
Never tell your colleagues these 3 "privacy"
Don't tell colleagues about your "opportunities" at work
Sui Dynasty thinker Wang Tong said:
When the benefits are met, they will be scattered; when the power is met, the power will be lost; when the power is lost, the power will be abandoned;
Some people hope to establish a close and harmonious relationship with their colleagues, but the way is to sell other people's privacy or their own privacy in exchange for it.
As a result, they often naively or even complacently tell their colleagues how they are clever, opportunistic, and take advantage of the company in the process of work.
Some "bad people" among colleagues are often "not completely bad". They do "bad things", which does not mean that they do not know what is good and evil, what is good or bad.
They know very well that you are not upright, and even when you "show off" yourself, they despise you in their hearts, and they will even treat you maliciously if you get a compliment from the company for it.
They will be jealous and resentful, thinking that your work ethic is not worthy of the reward.
Once you have a competitive relationship, all the original peace and beauty will disappear.
So, don't do things that hurt your conscience, and don't tell your colleagues your privacy casually.
Never tell your colleagues these 3 "privacy"
People are unpredictable, especially in colleagues. It is possible to meet good colleagues, but the probability is not high;
To protect yourself, you must sit upright and act upright, and don't try to test human nature, because you can't afford to lose.