In the workplace, what you think of as friends may be just allies

In the workplace, what you think of as friends may be just allies

In today's workplace, we often face the problem of too much intimacy.

"I and Lao Zhang are buddies"

"XX, you must think of me first when you are in trouble"

"This is my girlfriend"

……

But a lot of times, the buddies you said are very willing to sue your black state behind your back.

The colleague who makes it difficult for you to find him may not tell you when he changes his phone number

The best friend in your mouth may have quietly blocked you

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Xiao Wang is recognized as the best person in the unit. He smiles at everyone every day. As long as you need help, he will always be the first to lend a helping hand. The leaders often praise him. He also thinks that he is a good friend with everyone. , and even the savings of his own family are often told to the friends around him.

Once, Xiao Wang took on a project and had a competitive relationship with a colleague. He suddenly found out that the buddy who used to care about him suddenly didn't want to see him anymore. Several times, he heard this buddy whispering about him. bad words.

Another time, when he bought something urgently, he called five colleagues, but he didn't borrow a penny, and finally asked his father for it.

He really didn't understand.

02

In fact, it is really difficult for a person to form a very close relationship with so many colleagues. If the intimacy value is inflated, many of them must not live up to their name, especially in the workplace.

Many friends in the workplace are just temporary allies.

You may have been working towards the same goal for a period of time, or have a common enemy or adversary. But your allies are likely to be disintegrated due to the disappearance of the enemy or the achievement of the goal.

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Allies are different from friends, and even more different from girlfriends. The way of getting along needs to be different.

Principle 1

absolutely can't say anything

You and your allies can talk about your outlook on life, worldview, and boring gossip, but you must never reveal your important relationships, such as which leader transferred you over, who you are relatives with, etc.

If you have one thing in your heart and you don’t know whether to talk about it or not, it’s very simple, it’s just inappropriate to talk about it.

Principle 2

absolutely can't do anything

There are things you can do with friends but never with allies. For example, if you have a meal with your family, if your ally has a deep scheming, he will learn about your family background through the meal, and learn about your social relationship intentionally or unintentionally, and you will become more and more transparent in their eyes.

Principle 3

absolutely show weakness

Bravery is human instinct, and showing weakness is your ability.

In the workplace, what you think of as friends may be just allies

It is said that "a woman who can act like a spoiled child has the best life". In the workplace, it is always "a man who shows weakness will do well." friendship. Of course, showing weakness is intentional showing weakness, rather than revealing that you know nothing, which is also very dangerous.