Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
After 3 years of employment and 5 job changes, why am I still unhappy?
Xiao Zhang is a person who thinks he is very hardworking and can endure hardships.
But he worked hard for 3 years, but he did not get a corresponding promotion and salary increase, but changed 5 jobs instead.
Now, the fifth job has come to the brink of resignation due to conflicts with colleagues.
Xiao Zhang graduated from Normal University and studied literature. His first job was a middle school teacher. At the beginning, he felt that he would be able to "populate the world with peaches and plums" immediately, so he worked very hard, but, slowly, he found that being a teacher was too embarrassing. He patiently explained various knowledge points to students, and also helped students solve emotional problems. Sometimes, he was even misunderstood by parents and scolded by leaders. In less than half a year, he resigned.
Not long after he resigned, he successfully applied for an editorial job, but after only a few months of work, he felt it was too painful. Faced with cold words and writing insincere manuscripts all day, he felt unbearable pain. It's better to teach junior high school students, and it didn't take long for the boss to fire again.
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
In this way, he has successively done copywriting planning and advertising planning for the company, and now he is doing office secretarial work.
However, in the words of Xiao Zhang, he is unhappy in every job. Others work like pilgrimages, and they are very happy; when he goes to work himself, he is extremely depressed, even reaching the situation of "doing one line of work and complaining about one line of work"!
Of course, he also knew that these were his own problems.
But I can't find where the problem lies, and I don't even know what method to take to achieve "doing one line of work and loving one line of work"!
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
What are the main reasons for "doing one's work and resenting one's work"?
At work, we often see this phenomenon. Some people smile at every leader and colleague when they go to work. They even work a little harder and often work overtime. They have no complaints and are even very happy.
But there are also some people who are always frowning and sullen when they see them every day, and working relatively easily can also give them a bunch of reasons to dislike it. What's more, like Xiao Zhang, "doing one thing and resenting another", changing jobs many times, still not going well!
So, what is the reason for them to "do one line and blame one line"?
In my opinion, there are 3 main reasons:
①The psychological gap caused by too high expectations for work
Before starting work, everyone has a psychological expectation for the work they are about to do. Some people expect high wages, some people expect a broad platform and rapid progress, and some people expect comfortable work and more time to take care of. family. If you find that your work has not met your expectations after you actually work, or even has a big gap with your expectations, you are likely to doubt your work because of the psychological gap, and then complain until you feel resentful about your work. .
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
② Leaders do not recognize, no sense of achievement
Jack Ma said that if an employee does not want to work in the company, there are only two reasons, either he is aggrieved, or he is not given enough money!
However, being aggrieved is definitely the first priority.
We working in the workplace, especially as newcomers in the workplace, the most urgent need is to obtain leadership approval. If we do not receive approval after working hard for a period of time, our self-confidence will be hit, our work enthusiasm will decline, and a long-term vicious circle will continue. , will inevitably lead to discouragement and disappointment to the leadership and discouragement to work!
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
③ poor interpersonal relationship
There is a saying in the real estate industry that "a thousand gold buys a house, and a thousand gold buys a neighbor", which shows how much influence our neighbors have on us.
In the workplace, our neighbors are our colleagues. The quality of our relationship with our colleagues determines the comfort level of our work to a certain extent. If you have poor interpersonal relationships or do not know how to manage interpersonal relationships, you may find that, Colleagues are ostracizing you, leaders are deliberately making things difficult for you, and even the guards of the company are targeting you everywhere. If things go on like this, your enthusiasm for work will be attenuated because of these annoying "trivial things", until you resent your work.
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
How can it be done from "doing one line and resenting one line" to "doing one line and loving one line"?
I think, you can try the following 3 methods:
① "Pretend" to like the current job
Your attitude towards work does not determine "what you are doing", but it can determine "what mood" you are in.
If you don't like your current job right now, you can start by "pretending" to like it.
For example, if you really hate the leader's meeting every day, you can pretend to like it first, and then try to find the advantages of the meeting. For example, you can free your brain, try to guess the leader's next sentence, or even count the number of tone particles the leader has, etc. Wait;
For another example, if you feel lethargic and lack of confidence when you arrive at work, try to pretend to be elated, confident and energetic first. Whatever you pretend to be, remember that it must "act as it is"!
Stick to it for more than 3 months, and you will be surprised to find that you really like your current job.
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
②Using "compound interest" thinking to produce "compound interest" effect
There is a saying on Zhihu that is very reasonable: the simple and crude way to make you fall in love with something is to "do it well first". You don't need to be perfect, as long as it makes you feel your progress on it, you can already love it.
This is especially true for work. If you want to "do one line and love it", the most important thing is to start doing it and do it well. Maybe some jobs will pay off quickly, maybe some jobs will take longer.
What you have to do is to do everything that is entrusted to you, quickly improve your ability, and use your progress to gain the approval of your leaders. Under this idea of "compound interest", you will like your work more and more , even sometimes, the work is hard and tiring, as long as the leadership approves, you are in a very happy mood!
Changed jobs 5 times in 3 years, still unhappy: do one thing and complain another one! what do I do?
③ Increase your "smile" aura
Your relationships can't make you love a job, but it can definitely make you hate it!
I often hear people say, I don't want to work with XX, I get angry when I see XX, etc. There are many examples of resignation because of discord among colleagues.
Therefore, in order to work comfortably, you must learn to manage your interpersonal relationships. You can try to smile at your colleagues every morning, so that everyone thinks you are a sunny person; you can try to use lunch time to chat happily with your colleagues. , to enhance feelings; you can also try to send colleagues to trouble at work, at least to do a quiet listening.
Slowly, you will find that you have integrated into this group and fell in love with this job!