The leader toasted, the new employee refused to drink, and was slapped in the face: at the wine table, the judgment was made with high emotional intelligence
In the workplace, have you ever had a moment when you especially wanted to escape?
If you don't know how to drink, and your boss likes it, a company dinner might be one of them.
Recently, a newly graduated employee encountered an embarrassing scene during a company dinner.
- Leaders do not drink toasts, and new employees are slapped in the face ==========================================================================
Xiao Yang passed the school recruitment this year and joined the Zhongguancun branch of a bank.
He just walked out of the school gate, full of good expectations for life, but still retains the pure student thinking.
Among them, the matter of drinking can be reflected the most: I have not been drinking in the past ten years, and I have no plans to drink in the future.
Two days ago, the company organized a dinner party, and Xiao Yang participated for the first time, but considering that he could not drink alcohol, he reported to the leader in advance, but the leader did not make it clear whether it was okay or not.
At the wine table, the leader asked Xiao Yang to replace the drink with wine, and he once again emphasized the situation that he could not drink.
As a result, as the atmosphere at the wine table became more and more intense, suddenly another leader walked up to Xiao Yang and accused him of not drinking the toast, slapped him on the face, and cursingly asked him if he was stupid. .
Xiao Yang insisted again that he couldn't drink, and other colleagues who were drinking started booing after seeing this, calling Xiao Yang's name to let him drink over, which scared Xiao Yang and ran away. However, even when he walked to the elevator entrance, there were still colleagues who were drinking high and scolding him.
According to Xiao Yang, the dinner party that night was very chaotic, even to the point of calling the police in the end.
This experience shattered his beautiful imagination of the workplace, and questioned: Does not drinking alcohol meet the company's requirements? Is being forced to drink at a wine table beyond the pressure of duty?
- For work, will you cater to the wine table culture? =======================================================
Xiao Yang's question is not wrong. Whether or not he can drink is not a necessary condition for work, and being forced to drink at a dinner party is beyond his scope of responsibility.
However, this does not mean that the self-principle can be purely and strongly adhered to at the drinking table, because similar situations abound in the workplace.
Some examples:
The company has urgent tasks to work overtime, but there is no overtime pay. Would you firmly disagree because it affects your own health?
You think your colleague is doing things treacherous, but he has made his superiors your leader. Are you going to apply for resignation or transfer?
The boss is lecherous and spends all day drinking and drinking, which is not in line with your three views, but he gives you a good salary, so why not do this job?
In order to work, whether to cater to the culture of the wine table should be flexibly grasped according to the actual situation, rather than blindly insisting on one's own opinion.
Otherwise, in the case of Xiao Yang, even if the leader who slapped him was dealt with by the company afterwards and fined his quarterly performance bonus, it had no substantial impact on his leadership position. On the contrary, how Xiao Yang will get along with his leaders and colleagues at work has become a headache. His principle is to keep it, and the price may be the loss of jobs and relationships among colleagues.
What about later? When looking for a job, first emphasize to the other party that I don't drink alcohol, or else I won't do it? Or give up the idea of "I don't plan to drink in the future"? This embarrassing result is very helpless, but it is also very realistic.
- At the wine table, the emotional intelligence is high and the judgment is made ==================================================================================
The leader who slapped Xiao Yang angrily said to him: He is allergic to drinking, but he still insists on drinking it.
Many people may think that it is too humble to do this, and they would rather be hurt to meet the leader's preferences, and they hate to be such a person.
If you think the same way, I don’t think it’s difficult to do. When you become an employee with irreplaceable value in the workplace, the way you express yourself or the intensity of your attitude will not be a big problem. Even if the CEO comes over to make a toast, you can refuse.
But before that, you have to realize that you have irreplaceable value? If not, refer to Xiao Yang's dinner experience and the possible work impact.
So, employees who are not irreplaceable can only make compromises and force themselves to drink at the wine table? Not necessarily, you can ease the conflict of this issue by means of higher emotional intelligence.
①Use reasons cleverly and throw difficulties to the other party.
There are many reasons for not drinking, such as taking medicine, illness, severe allergies, etc. These are easy to understand, but don't tell the other party bluntly and resolutely abstain from drinking. You can cooperate with the leader in an attitude, expressing that you want to drink, but it may cause some physical harm, and let the leader choose whether to drink or not.
② Learn to drink smartly to minimize the impact on health.
Drinking alcohol will hurt your body, but if you only drink one or two taels, if you have a normal physique, most of them will be fine.
When a big leader is toasting, it is sometimes inconvenient to explain too much at the wine table that you can’t drink. It’s better to just taste it. Although a small amount may be ridiculed, it is better than not drinking at all to make the other person feel better.
Even if the leader insists that you finish drinking, you can drink water immediately, spit in or drink some water to ease, all of which can relieve some of the discomfort caused to the body. There are many small methods, the key is that if you don’t want to drink, you have to study and think about it in advance, give the other party enough face, and not be too affected by yourself, wouldn’t it be better?
In a word, whether you hate the wine table culture or not, it is an occasion for interpersonal relationships that young people must often experience after entering the society. Some principles are correct, but you must learn to be flexible and compromise properly is not losing yourself. But for the future to be able to better adhere to themselves.
- Write at the end ====================
In the workplace, a person's comprehensive ability is tested everywhere, not just how strong his professional skills are and how much he loves his work.
Only by being able to speak, be able to act, be a good person, and make interpersonal communication a boost to promotion and salary increase in the workplace, is the way to be successful in life. Being arrogant may not be able to withstand the pressure of life, and it is easy to be “empty of people and money” if you are humble and lowly. So, how can we do it just right?